Category Archives: Reflections

Suggestion: Let’s Remove the Word, “Dapat” from our Vocabulary

Posted on October 19, 2018 by

We have to get rid of “Dapat” from our vocabulary. In English, “Dapat” means “Should” and herein lies the crux of all our problems. With just a single word, “Dapat or should” we place all our dreams and expectations. Only to … Continue reading →

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When you lose a baby via miscarriage

Posted on October 6, 2018 by

**WARNING: SOME TROUBLING, VERY DISTURBING BLOODY PHOTOS OF MY EXPERIENCE AHEAD*** I miscarried and had my raspa last Wednesday, August 15. We lost the baby at 11 weeks old. The heartbeat simply stopped. We didn’t know until the 14th week … Continue reading →

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Mommy Guilt and Being a Bad Mother

Posted on July 21, 2018 by

When I see perfect mothers on the Internet, who fuss about how to correctly clean their baby bottles and sterilize their house, I feel a bit guilty. As a working mother, I am usually pooped after work. After the stress … Continue reading →

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Marriage Tip: Love Your In-Laws

Posted on June 8, 2018 by

A lot of people complain about their mother-in-laws (MIL). One mommy complained to her husband when her mother-in-law brought out her 3-month old baby out without asking for her permission. “It was raining!” she said in exasperation. “Do I have … Continue reading →

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When a Deal Falls Apart

Posted on May 30, 2018 by

Last Monday, I signed a one-year lease contract for a small unit my husband owns. I have been showing the unit off a few times, and finally, I was able to lease it out with cash upfront. Of course, I … Continue reading →

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Why You Have to Love Yourself

Posted on May 13, 2018 by

There’s a saying that before everyone else can love you, you have to love yourself FIRST. That’s the problem with sayings, you never fully understand them when you hear them at first. It’s like someone telling you some feel good … Continue reading →

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Why I got into Business

Posted on May 6, 2018 by

A high school student came the other day and asked me about my experience as a businesswoman. His comments made me reflect on the decisions that I’ve made and why I actually got into business. My parents were both businessman. … Continue reading →

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The Danger of Discontentment

Posted on May 1, 2018 by

Our best sales staff decided to end her employment this April 2018. She was earning around php18,000-22,000 per month, an achievement especially since she was not a college graduate and has no special skills. She is only 26 years old. … Continue reading →

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Leadership Lesson: Be Kind

Posted on March 25, 2018 by

When I was in Hong Kong, I learned how to be a bigger b*tch. Everything was fast paced and everyone was on top of their games. I worked with the best of the best, and loved it. I worked from … Continue reading →

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Matigas ang Ulo (Hard Headed)

Posted on January 24, 2018 by

I have extensive experience of multiple staff who are especially hard headed. These are the people who intentionally try to circumvent the rules when they can, and pout when they cannot. True Story # 1:  My brother went on a … Continue reading →

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How My Friend Got Away with Infidelity

Posted on January 11, 2018 by

My married friend learned that her husband was flirting with other women behind her back. Given that he needs to be based in the Southern area and their child studies here in Manila, they have spent many days apart per … Continue reading →

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If you don’t watch your staff, don’t be surprised if they go and party!

Posted on December 23, 2017 by

My father-in-law tells me about a janitor who works in his Association’s building. Since he was the Association President that year, he was the one who interviewed and oriented that personnel before hiring him. “The janitor was good. He has initiative,” he … Continue reading →

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“Hindi Pwedeng Hindi” (Never say Never)

Posted on December 16, 2017 by

When I worked at a prestigious investment bank, I asked my assistant to DHL a very important time-critical document to one of our largest clients. It was her visa, which will allow her to fly to Taiwan that Sunday for … Continue reading →

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Na-Basted! 

Posted on November 17, 2017 by

My friend J, who I have talked about in this post, “When a man chase after a woman and he’s not that cute,” has been busted by his potential lady love. Long story short, the woman said she only wanted … Continue reading →

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Quitting While You’re Ahead

Posted on September 18, 2017 by

Our store in Robinsons Galleria was the branch that started it all.  It was the first branch we signed the contract on after my in-laws gave us the company to manage. We refurbished a brand new look and feel for … Continue reading →

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Lesson of the Day: Engagement

Posted on June 2, 2017 by

I read an interesting article by Business Insider, “My 11-year-old son auditioned at Juilliard, and we both learned a lot about how top performers practice.” As I read the article, I can’t help but ask, “How engaged are we really … Continue reading →

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The Lord answers prayers

Posted on May 21, 2017 by

I have a bit of issues in the office, and given that everything is happening at the same time, it’s been a very stressful time for me.  Two of my staff share the responsibility of monitoring our inventory. One is … Continue reading →

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What are the steps for a successful startup?

Posted on April 27, 2017 by

It’s all about execution. No matter how great your ideas are, if you do not execute your idea, you won’t become successful. Case in point, we have a small accessory retail business. Currently we have 20 stores in major malls … Continue reading →

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All Failed Relationships Lead You to the Right One

Posted on July 12, 2016 by

The first guy I dated worked as a waiter, became a restaurant cook and ended up to be a holistic masseuse in Japan. He was a high school graduate who felt he was inferior against college graduates because they have a degree and … Continue reading →

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How do you know you’ve found the Right One?

Posted on July 9, 2016 by

Answer: “You just know.” And before you strangle me for giving you a typical B.S. answer, let me implore you to think more about how deep that answer is. First, majority of people who’ve found The One say it, and say it … Continue reading →

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Couple Envy

Posted on April 7, 2015 by

There is what you call, “Business envy.” Business envy is when you wish you are in another business because you are envious of the profits and success that business entails. I have a little bit what you call, “Couple envy.” … Continue reading →

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How to Keep Sane — Prioritize Only 3 Things!

Posted on March 7, 2015 by

“Why does it seem as if time flies?” I asked my husband during lunch today. “I really wish that there are more than 24 hours in a day.” After I got married, I found myself short on time. But I am always … Continue reading →

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What is Wrong with Working for Someone Else?

Posted on February 18, 2015 by

Dear Aspiring Entrepreneur, I’ve always found you to be very admirable. For one, you are very optimistic. Being optimistic despite the odds is a very good trait. It shows you have resilience, and have the ability to keep on smiling … Continue reading →

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Stalkerish Much?

Posted on February 10, 2015 by

Unlike many women, I like accompanying my husband everywhere he goes. My mom used to go with my father everywhere so history repeats itself. A friend used to tell me that the one time that my father went to Europe without … Continue reading →

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Have you found your “Soul Equal?”

Posted on February 7, 2015 by

This has been reprinted from Debra Faith Warshaw’s article, “There is Something Better Than Finding a Soulmate“ I find this article quite accurate. With ex-boyfriend Trader, I was the more dominant partner. Frankly, I felt he was holding me down, and … Continue reading →

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We are the Pussy Generation

Posted on February 5, 2015 by

Clint Eastwood called us “The Pussy Generation,” and I can’t help but to agree. Compared to the older generations, we work a lot less. We have more money and we have more things. And yet, we complain more. We complain about … Continue reading →

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The Intricate Balance of Getting Along with Your Husband

Posted on February 4, 2015 by

I think marriage is about getting along with another person. Day in and day out, you’re pretty stuck with each other. And if you don’t get along well with each other, then life can really be hell. That’s why it’s really … Continue reading →

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No Rest for the Weary Entrepreneur

Posted on January 8, 2015 by

I’ve learned a valuable lesson this week. If you are an entrepreneur, theoretically, there is no sleep and there is no rest. When we returned from a one-day vacation last June 2, husband and I were riding high from an awesome December … Continue reading →

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Husband’s Guest Post — “My Wife Drives Me Nuts”

Posted on December 29, 2014 by

Does your mom, dad or sibling have a particular habit that just simply drives you nuts? Burping out loud, leaving the door open, cluttered mess… these sort of things? Now, take these irritations and multiply it by at least ten. … Continue reading →

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Technology is EVIL

Posted on November 11, 2014 by

After over five months of marriage, Hubby and I remain happy and content in our togetherness. He still makes me coffee every morning and massages my tired feet every night. He helps clean the shower (I never seem to get … Continue reading →

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My Husband Speaks — “Hello World!”

Posted on October 17, 2014 by

“I have something to tell you but don’t get mad,” my ex-girlfriend told me. “Because my ex-boyfriend went berserk when he found out about it.” “Unless you happen to be a professional drug lord kingpin or an axe murderer, I … Continue reading →

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Marriage is all about Compromise

Posted on October 14, 2014 by

Marriage is all about compromise. For me, it’s about getting my hot Nespresso coffee made fresh by my husband every morning. For him, it’s about me letting him get that extra 10 minutes of sleep in the morning. For me, it’s about … Continue reading →

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Edric Mendoza — Many Women’s God’s Best

Posted on September 29, 2014 by

“Eeeeee! He’s on TV!” my husband shakes me as he sees Edric Mendoza on TV. If you are wondering what is causing my husband’s excitement, here is a photo of Edric Mendoza that I’ve gotten on the Internet: Cute, ey? Bespectacled, … Continue reading →

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Does God answer prayer?

Posted on September 20, 2014 by

My husband and I are born-again Christians. In the evening, we try our best to have quiet time together, reading a few chapters in the Bible and reflecting on what they mean. Afterwards, we say a little prayer thanking the Lord … Continue reading →

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“You’re Fired!”

Posted on September 19, 2014 by

The only thing I remember from Donald Trump’s Show The Apprentice is him telling aspiring candidates, “You’re fired!” He makes firing so easy. As a business owner and a female boss, I don’t feel as comfortable firing people as Mr. Trump. Whenever … Continue reading →

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Disappointed with the Philippine Workforce

Posted on September 17, 2014 by

While I am lucky to have a few good men, I couldn’t help but observe how disappointing the Philippine workforce can be. There are just a lot of headaches that occur here that would probably not happen in Hong Kong and Taiwan. … Continue reading →

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What would happen if I didn’t marry my husband

Posted on September 13, 2014 by

I was thinking about what my life would be if I did not marry my husband. If I married my first boyfriend, it would’ve been a loveless marriage.  It was a one-sided relationship which started wrongly — with Michan first … Continue reading →

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6 Reasons Why Women Are Still Single

Posted on September 3, 2014 by

I have a lot of single girl friends. And they’re worried. They’re worried that they don’t have anyone special in their lives. They’re worried that they won’t find The One. They’re worried that they’ll be single forever. I have a lot of girl … Continue reading →

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Is Entrepreneurship FOR YOU?

Posted on August 31, 2014 by

It requires at least a 20,000 circulation for Summit Media to continue publishing a magazine. One of their magazine, “Entrepreneur,” boasts of a 30,000 circulation, a 4x pass-on readership, and a total monthly readership of 150,000. While this may not be impressive to some, … Continue reading →

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Enjoying Corporate Overseas OR Come Back and Build Your Own Business in Manila (Extra: The Hard and Joys of Coming Back Home)

Posted on July 27, 2014 by

So many of you have wondered whether you should give up your nice cushy job abroad and come back to the Philippines to start your own business. Having done both — going corporate and being self-employed — I feel I’m in the … Continue reading →

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Dear XXX — The first days of marriage

Posted on July 23, 2014 by

Dear XXX, How are you?! It’s true what you said before. After marriage, you’ll miss your parents (or in my case, my mom) a lot. I didn’t shed tears or try to run home to her, but there were times … Continue reading →

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Buy One, Take One

Posted on July 20, 2014 by

My mom today SMS’d me to ask if I would be available to attend with her my uncle’s 94th birthday. If I was, she can pick me up at 6pm. I asked if my husband is included. She said, given … Continue reading →

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I’m Not Perfect — Are You?

Posted on February 4, 2014 by

When I was in Hong Kong, most guys never really bent on bended knee to ask a girl to marry him. It happened, sure, but not like here in the Philippines where a guy dates a girl a few months … Continue reading →

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Happy birthday to ME!

Posted on October 18, 2013 by

It’s that time of the year again where I celebrate yet another birthday. Honestly, I feel I’m growing old way too fast and find myself trying to hold on desperately to my youth. I mean, where the heck did my … Continue reading →

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Who would have known I’d learn something from Tim Gunn?

Posted on October 4, 2013 by

I’m sure you know who Tim Gunn is. He’s one of Project Runway’s mentors and co-hosts beside Heidi Klum, and was one of the faculty of the Parsons School of Design from 1982 to 2007, chairing its fashion design department … Continue reading →

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They’re Engaged!!!

Posted on September 3, 2013 by

My Bible Group Leader just got engaged after less than 2 months of dating. It was announced just today via Facebook of all things, and so far, the status update is now at 200 congratulations and counting! 🙂 I always … Continue reading →

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Taming of Tongue

Posted on August 28, 2013 by

I love my boyfriend. He is one of the most hard working, sweetest, and most competent guys I know. Since being with him for 9 months now, I haven’t really seen him try to fool or cheat anyone. He conducts … Continue reading →

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Too Fast, Too Soon?

Posted on August 15, 2013 by

A friend of mine shared that her and her boyfriend broke up a few weeks ago. They’ve been dating for more than half a year. Understandably, she was devastated. I think hers is a case of giving up too much, … Continue reading →

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Taxi Theory in the Philippines

Everyone who’s a fan of Sex and the City knows about the encompassing Taxi Theory. As stated by the great romantic cynic, Miranda Hobbes, “Men are like cabs. When they’re ready to get married, they turn their light on. The next woman they pick … Continue reading →

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The Philippine Hypocrisy — Or is it just the Philippines?

Posted on June 12, 2013 by

One of last week’s bigger news is a popular comic strip artist resigning from his daily after a successful 25-year run at the Philippine Daily Inquirer (PDI), one of the widest read dailies in the Philippines. Since 1988, “Pugad Baboy” … Continue reading →

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I am glad I didn’t marry earlier

Posted on June 7, 2013 by

This wonderful article, Do Not Marry Before Age 30, pretty much sums up how I feel about marriage. Sure, you might blame me for copping out, telling me that I could only feel this way because I wasn’t lucky enough to … Continue reading →

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To Conclude the Trader Story…

Posted on January 20, 2013 by

At the risk of sounding defensive, I feel that I have to clear a few things up with you guys regarding my last relationship. While trying to remain the better person and keeping my mouth shut and my fingers at … Continue reading →

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What type of marriage would you want?

Posted on November 12, 2012 by

My family is still at the camp that as marriage is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make, they’d rather that we be single than marry the wrong person, grandkids or not. I’ve actually seen how marriage can … Continue reading →

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Is “Nice” Enough to Make A Relationship?

Posted on September 9, 2012 by

People always think its better to date a nice guy. At least, he would never really hurt you. He can’t. He’s just too “nice.” Well, I did actually dated a guy because he was nice. Of course, the cute factor … Continue reading →

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Breakup Etiquette: would you return the expensive gifts your ex gave you…

Posted on April 15, 2012 by

…if the reason you broke up was because you had a third party? Some people in my life had asked me to ask Trader for some of the gifts I gave him back. at the least, the most expensive ones. … Continue reading →

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How to Make A Girl Like YOU

Posted on March 28, 2012 by

This is so true… Tried and tested… if you like someone: Step 1: Find a way to “connect” with them. In the Philippines, it’s easy enough so long as you have her number. Be non-threatening and start with a simple, … Continue reading →

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“Why? Why? Why?”

Posted on December 2, 2011 by

In the aftermath of a breakup, we tend to ask ourselves repeatedly, “Why?” We look into ourselves for answers. We ask other people. We even at times implore our exes to share what we did to have them lose attraction … Continue reading →

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I Feel the Changes

Posted on November 27, 2011 by

Five weeks since the breakup. But I will not talk about my breakup. Instead, I will share with you the many internal changes going with myself. Past is past, and the best thing to do in a failed relationship is … Continue reading →

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I Need to be Strong

Posted on November 25, 2011 by

I am working on a pretty big pet project at the moment. It’s this project that makes me smile and drives me. It will come to play in 2012, and I can’t wait to unveil it in the next few … Continue reading →

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Changes, changes, changes!

Posted on November 18, 2011 by

A few updates on how I’ve been doing so far in lovely London. If you may ask, I am thoroughly blessed even though it doesn’t really seem that way. For one, I am in the company of great friends, and … Continue reading →

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What people told me today that gave me some level of comfort

Posted on November 3, 2011 by

My mom: “So Bonita if I were you, I would thank God for taking away Trader. Anyway if he either comes back by himself or by you calling him again, thank God for changing Trader and making him strong enough … Continue reading →

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My best friend’s crash and burn

Posted on September 18, 2011 by

My best friend said that her new romance had crashed and burned. It was only a month or two since it began. She is a senior resident at a hospital. The guy is a junior resident with a complicated past. … Continue reading →

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You think you’re so smart because you have an MBA?

Posted on July 31, 2011 by

Think again. We’re not. In fact, we’re pretty ordinary people. Like everyone else, we eat, sleep, go to the bathroom. We do everything that everyone does. In fact, if you ask us to stand in a line, it would be … Continue reading →

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Before us (BU) and After us (AU)

Posted on June 18, 2011 by

Trader is in Bali with his friends, many of whom would be new. I am honestly unsure on how to handle it. Trader has never really been on a vacation with his friends — many of whom are new — … Continue reading →

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How I met my ex…

Posted on May 24, 2011 by

I’ve always believed that talking has helped me deal with my problems. It’s actually if I don’t talk about my issues that they are left to fester and grow. We don’t want that of course. So let me tell you … Continue reading →

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Loving Rachel Zoe!

Posted on April 12, 2011 by

“To be honest, there are a million people out there waiting to see me fail. It makes for a better story. It’s what people want to see. They don’t like success stories. So I have to work much harder to … Continue reading →

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Mom’s reply to my letter – she wants me to have FOUR lovely kids!

Posted on March 22, 2011 by

Dear Bonita, Mom is happy for you because if Trader thinks that way, he is a responsible man. Trader wants 2 to 3 children. For us, we wanted you to have four kids with 2-years interval. Like now, we are … Continue reading →

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Artjamming and dire results

Posted on March 13, 2011 by

Maybe it’s because of the 8.8 earthquake and x-sky high tsunami that hit Japan last Friday… Or the fact that Spain’s grading was downgraded… Or the fact that Ireland’s request of having their cost of borrowing reduced denied… Or the … Continue reading →

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It’s so easy to forget the good things when you’re mad.

Posted on March 3, 2011 by

That’s what happens when you have an argument. Your heart rate goes up, your blood boils over and you just want to press the “Abort” button. You ask yourself, “What the hell am I doing here?” not really conscious of … Continue reading →

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What I did in 2010… (Part I)

Posted on January 2, 2011 by

2010 had been a year of new beginnings and many changes. Here’s a brief rundown: January 2010: Trader and I had already been together for the last eight months and our relationship is rocky. We fight a lot because he … Continue reading →

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T’is is NOT the Season to be Jolly!

Posted on August 3, 2010 by

Three couple friends in 24 hours. Two breakups. One on the way. Inasmuch that summer is moving towards autumn, breakup season signals its dire return. “Hon, can you please call me?” I asked Trader today after his work. There is … Continue reading →

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Like a Branded Bag

Posted on April 19, 2010 by

A relationship is like a branded bag. When you see a woman toting a catchy bag, you cannot help but stare at what is in her arms. “I want one of those,” you jealously mutter to yourself. You windowshop until … Continue reading →

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Met the Parents – Check

Posted on February 18, 2010 by

So we’ve met the parents. Great news: My parents, with the usual apprehensions, overall like him. Bad news: His parents towards me — not so much. Hardly surprising though. The least we could expect was that the weekend was no … Continue reading →

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In Defense of Desperate Housewives

Posted on January 27, 2010 by

Traderr and I had a fight the day before yesterday because I was too stressed out when he shared his wish for me to be a home-maker once we get married. Not that I’m discounting the hard work being a … Continue reading →

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Biggest Lessons in 2009

Posted on January 6, 2010 by

Trader asked me what my New Year’s resolutions are. His were to sleep earlier, play less video games and read more books. He’s just started getting addicted to video games and wanted to curb this time-wasting endeavor. “To be better … Continue reading →

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“I dreamed a dream…”

Posted on December 6, 2009 by

As many of you know, I’ve always wanted an MBA. Ever since. It’s been my dream ever since I was in college, but I figured that I had to work 2 years or so to be eligible for the program. … Continue reading →

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Trouble in paradise?

Posted on November 3, 2009 by

Trader and I are in a bit of a bind these days. On a gross twist of fate, his parents now hate  mine even though they’ve never even met, because they think my parents are mayabang (arrogant). Of course, Trader … Continue reading →

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Happy Birthday to a 29 year-old me!

Posted on October 18, 2009 by

Last year, my parents told me that I can now officially date. Now turning 29, I’m dating this really nice guy, relocated to a new country and are celebrating by parent-sitting this week. My dad is constantly in my back … Continue reading →

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Love only those who love you

Posted on August 23, 2009 by

Many a woman’s problems can be solved by following one rule: Love only the man who loves you more. Women aren’t really born and bred to chase after a man. In these days of independent powerful women who are used … Continue reading →

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A real Rapunzel love story

Posted on August 17, 2009 by

The setting was perfect: the church was only booked by Manila’s finest and the reception was held at the Makati Shangri-la, one of the most expensive and opulent venues to hold a wedding. The bride’s mother cried and everybody sighed … Continue reading →

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Why am I not a fan of malabong usapan (complicated relationships)?

Posted on August 11, 2009 by

1)      What for? As if I’m still looking for somebody else. Isn’t it better to just focus on your significant other? Usually for those who still like to keep their relationships “complicated,” they’re still on the lookout for someone better. … Continue reading →

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Grass is Always Greener

Posted on July 31, 2009 by

Given that Trader and I are still on our 20s, that automatically translates that him and I cannot really enjoy quiet meals at high-class, ridiculously expensive restaurants with an overpriced bottle of wine. If I were to fly over to … Continue reading →

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Why make things official?

Posted on May 20, 2009 by

Why make things official?  When my good friend posted photos of her and a Caucasian in semi-sweet positions on her Facebook account, as good as we are nosy, we immediately barraged her with teasing questions like, “Oh my, is that … Continue reading →

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The one you love, or the one who loves you more?

Posted on May 3, 2009 by

Spent an emotional weekend with two of my boys and the difference between them couldn’t had been starker. Despite living in the same city as Trader, my ex-boyfriend only got to see me the day before I was supposed to leave. … Continue reading →

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The Art of Successful Pickups

Posted on April 5, 2009 by

Today I met someone who I knew would be very good in picking up women. He made an impression on me and for all jilted men out there who thinks that picking up a woman is difficult, this is for … Continue reading →

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Out with the old, in with the new

Posted on March 27, 2009 by

Broken relationships are like old shoes. You’ve worn them far too often till they are worn and torn. The shine is gone, and the skin are falling off, and yet, you cannot manage to tear yourself away from them. You … Continue reading →

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Saying goodbye to 2008 — and hello to 2009!

Posted on January 3, 2009 by

2008 passed by so fast — where has it gone?  In a way, it seems that 2008 was the transitional year.  It was the year when I deepened my expertise in project and relationship management, in addition to actually making … Continue reading →

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The Slow Disappear

Posted on December 26, 2008 by

I think I’m too rational for my own good — too logical, even-minded and fair. I had previously mentioned that men like drama. Sure, they get all pissed off and claim that their girl is psycho, but soon enough, you … Continue reading →

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What I Need in a Man

Posted on November 12, 2008 by

I WANT MORE Attention: I need to know you are present, hopefully in body, but especially in spirit. That means getting rid of the evil blackberry once in a while… Courage and tenacity to last: Nothing about the future is … Continue reading →

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Too much honesty?

Posted on October 24, 2008 by

Books had always advised us to play hard to get. To not show our true selves. To not call even if we want to. To pretend we are someone we’re not just to get someone to like us. Today, I’ve … Continue reading →

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Choose Well — Live Better

Posted on September 14, 2008 by

People who know what they want are happier and make better choices. If you are aware of who you are and what you want, then can say no to those you don’t like, and say yes to what you want. … Continue reading →

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Lesson of the Day

Posted on September 6, 2008 by

Just got home from a 17+ hour workday, feeling energized. There’s nothing better but to end the week without a backlog from work because you’ve slaved enough and finished everything that’s on your plate. 🙂 Today, received a call from … Continue reading →

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Fate

Posted on August 12, 2008 by

It’s my belief that Fate has a hand to play in how our lives flow. Back when I was in university, I vowed to myself not to work in a computer company and a bank, mistakenly assuming that these would … Continue reading →

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Wash, rinse, repeat

Posted on July 2, 2008 by

I am tired of the same SOP (standard operating procedure). Guy or girl calls, asks the other out for a date. You meet in a casual, noisy restaurant — at first with a dash of nervousness, but after the nth … Continue reading →

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Ugly Duckling

Posted on May 16, 2008 by

Allow me to let you in a little secret — I was butt ugly as a child. Some kids were cute because they looked fat and adorable. Meanwhile, with my round face, small eyes and pug nose, I looked more … Continue reading →

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Real

Posted on May 15, 2008 by

I wish there was a person with whom I can totally be real with. I’m tired of pretending. No, I’m not as confident as you may think. A lot of times, I doubt my own capabilities as well. Some people … Continue reading →

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Ramblings

Posted on May 13, 2008 by

I am 20. I’ve never been out later than midnight. When I do so, my father sermons me till 3:00 am. 20 and with a curfew. Life sucks. Graduating very soon though. Looking forward to a career in brand management … Continue reading →

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When in doubt…

Posted on April 25, 2008 by

From the Raven Archives – June 21, 2006 You pick up bits and pieces of treasure and trash, pain and pleasure, passions and disappointments, and you start throwing them in your bag, your big bag of experience. You do some … Continue reading →

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Guy Critical

Posted on February 17, 2008 by

Last week has been a weird one for me. I spent S.A.D. (Singleness Awareness Day) among a handful of fellow hot singles sipping a nice-looking mocktail and chowing on delicious Japanese fusion food in Dozo. My friend had this bright … Continue reading →

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Reunion

Posted on February 8, 2008 by

I met up with some former high school classmates last night for dinner at the popular Serendra in Makati. It’s amazing on how much we’ve grown over the last 9 years. Bee is now working in the family business and … Continue reading →

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