Category Archives: Reflections

The Lord answers prayers

I have a bit of issues in the office, and given that everything is happening at the same time, it’s been a very stressful time for me.  Two of my staff share the responsibility of monitoring our inventory. One is … Continue reading

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What are the steps for a successful startup?

It’s all about execution. No matter how great your ideas are, if you do not execute your idea, you won’t become successful. Case in point, we have a small accessory retail business. Currently we have 20 stores in major malls … Continue reading

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All Failed Relationships Lead You to the Right One

The first guy I dated worked as a waiter, became a restaurant cook and ended up to be a holistic masseuse in Japan. He was a high school graduate who felt he was inferior against college graduates because they have a degree and … Continue reading

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How do you know you’ve found the Right One?

Answer: “You just know.” And before you strangle me for giving you a typical B.S. answer, let me implore you to think more about how deep that answer is. First, majority of people who’ve found The One say it, and say it … Continue reading

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Couple Envy

There is what you call, “Business envy.” Business envy is when you wish you are in another business because you are envious of the profits and success that business entails. I have a little bit what you call, “Couple envy.” … Continue reading

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How to Keep Sane — Prioritize Only 3 Things!

“Why does it seem as if time flies?” I asked my husband during lunch today. “I really wish that there are more than 24 hours in a day.” After I got married, I found myself short on time. But I am always … Continue reading

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What is Wrong with Working for Someone Else?

Dear Aspiring Entrepreneur, I’ve always found you to be very admirable. For one, you are very optimistic. Being optimistic despite the odds is a very good trait. It shows you have resilience, and have the ability to keep on smiling … Continue reading

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Stalkerish Much?

Unlike many women, I like accompanying my husband everywhere he goes. My mom used to go with my father everywhere so history repeats itself. A friend used to tell me that the one time that my father went to Europe without … Continue reading

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Have you found your “Soul Equal?”

This has been reprinted from Debra Faith Warshaw’s article, “There is Something Better Than Finding a Soulmate“ I find this article quite accurate. With ex-boyfriend Trader, I was the more dominant partner. Frankly, I felt he was holding me down, and … Continue reading

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We are the Pussy Generation

Clint Eastwood called us “The Pussy Generation,” and I can’t help but to agree. Compared to the older generations, we work a lot less. We have more money and we have more things. And yet, we complain more. We complain about … Continue reading

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The Intricate Balance of Getting Along with Your Husband

I think marriage is about getting along with another person. Day in and day out, you’re pretty stuck with each other. And if you don’t get along well with each other, then life can really be hell. That’s why it’s really … Continue reading

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No Rest for the Weary Entrepreneur

I’ve learned a valuable lesson this week. If you are an entrepreneur, theoretically, there is no sleep and there is no rest. When we returned from a one-day vacation last June 2, husband and I were riding high from an awesome December … Continue reading

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Husband’s Guest Post — “My Wife Drives Me Nuts”

Does your mom, dad or sibling have a particular habit that just simply drives you nuts? Burping out loud, leaving the door open, cluttered mess… these sort of things? Now, take these irritations and multiply it by at least ten. … Continue reading

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Technology is EVIL

After over five months of marriage, Hubby and I remain happy and content in our togetherness. He still makes me coffee every morning and massages my tired feet every night. He helps clean the shower (I never seem to get … Continue reading

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My Husband Speaks — “Hello World!”

“I have something to tell you but don’t get mad,” my ex-girlfriend told me. “Because my ex-boyfriend went berserk when he found out about it.” “Unless you happen to be a professional drug lord kingpin or an axe murderer, I … Continue reading

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Marriage is all about Compromise

Marriage is all about compromise. For me, it’s about getting my hot Nespresso coffee made fresh by my husband every morning. For him, it’s about me letting him get that extra 10 minutes of sleep in the morning. For me, it’s about … Continue reading

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Edric Mendoza — Many Women’s God’s Best

“Eeeeee! He’s on TV!” my husband shakes me as he sees Edric Mendoza on TV. If you are wondering what is causing my husband’s excitement, here is a photo of Edric Mendoza that I’ve gotten on the Internet: Cute, ey? Bespectacled, … Continue reading

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Does God answer prayer?

My husband and I are born-again Christians. In the evening, we try our best to have quiet time together, reading a few chapters in the Bible and reflecting on what they mean. Afterwards, we say a little prayer thanking the Lord … Continue reading

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“You’re Fired!”

The only thing I remember from Donald Trump’s Show The Apprentice is him telling aspiring candidates, “You’re fired!” He makes firing so easy. As a business owner and a female boss, I don’t feel as comfortable firing people as Mr. Trump. Whenever … Continue reading

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Disappointed with the Philippine Workforce

While I am lucky to have a few good men, I couldn’t help but observe how disappointing the Philippine workforce can be. There are just a lot of headaches that occur here that would probably not happen in Hong Kong and Taiwan. … Continue reading

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What would happen if I didn’t marry my husband

I was thinking about what my life would be if I did not marry my husband. If I married my first boyfriend, it would’ve been a loveless marriage.  It was a one-sided relationship which started wrongly — with Michan first … Continue reading

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6 Reasons Why Women Are Still Single

I have a lot of single girl friends. And they’re worried. They’re worried that they don’t have anyone special in their lives. They’re worried that they won’t find The One. They’re worried that they’ll be single forever. I have a lot of girl … Continue reading

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Is Entrepreneurship FOR YOU?

It requires at least a 20,000 circulation for Summit Media to continue publishing a magazine. One of their magazine, “Entrepreneur,” boasts of a 30,000 circulation, a 4x pass-on readership, and a total monthly readership of 150,000. While this may not be impressive to some, … Continue reading

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Enjoying Corporate Overseas OR Come Back and Build Your Own Business in Manila (Extra: The Hard and Joys of Coming Back Home)

So many of you have wondered whether you should give up your nice cushy job abroad and come back to the Philippines to start your own business. Having done both — going corporate and being self-employed — I feel I’m in the … Continue reading

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Dear XXX — The first days of marriage

Dear XXX, How are you?! It’s true what you said before. After marriage, you’ll miss your parents (or in my case, my mom) a lot. I didn’t shed tears or try to run home to her, but there were times … Continue reading

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Buy One, Take One

My mom today SMS’d me to ask if I would be available to attend with her my uncle’s 94th birthday. If I was, she can pick me up at 6pm. I asked if my husband is included. She said, given … Continue reading

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I’m Not Perfect — Are You?

When I was in Hong Kong, most guys never really bent on bended knee to ask a girl to marry him. It happened, sure, but not like here in the Philippines where a guy dates a girl a few months … Continue reading

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Happy birthday to ME!

It’s that time of the year again where I celebrate yet another birthday. Honestly, I feel I’m growing old way too fast and find myself trying to hold on desperately to my youth. I mean, where the heck did my … Continue reading

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Who would have known I’d learn something from Tim Gunn?

I’m sure you know who Tim Gunn is. He’s one of Project Runway’s mentors and co-hosts beside Heidi Klum, and was one of the faculty of the Parsons School of Design from 1982 to 2007, chairing its fashion design department … Continue reading

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They’re Engaged!!!

My Bible Group Leader just got engaged after less than 2 months of dating. It was announced just today via Facebook of all things, and so far, the status update is now at 200 congratulations and counting! 🙂 I always … Continue reading

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Taming of Tongue

I love my boyfriend. He is one of the most hard working, sweetest, and most competent guys I know. Since being with him for 9 months now, I haven’t really seen him try to fool or cheat anyone. He conducts … Continue reading

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Too Fast, Too Soon?

A friend of mine shared that her and her boyfriend broke up a few weeks ago. They’ve been dating for more than half a year. Understandably, she was devastated. I think hers is a case of giving up too much, … Continue reading

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Taxi Theory in the Philippines

Everyone who’s a fan of Sex and the City knows about the encompassing Taxi Theory. As stated by the great romantic cynic, Miranda Hobbes, “Men are like cabs. When they’re ready to get married, they turn their light on. The next woman they pick … Continue reading

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The Philippine Hypocrisy — Or is it just the Philippines?

One of last week’s bigger news is a popular comic strip artist resigning from his daily after a successful 25-year run at the Philippine Daily Inquirer (PDI), one of the widest read dailies in the Philippines. Since 1988, “Pugad Baboy” … Continue reading

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I am glad I didn’t marry earlier

This wonderful article, Do Not Marry Before Age 30, pretty much sums up how I feel about marriage. Sure, you might blame me for copping out, telling me that I could only feel this way because I wasn’t lucky enough to … Continue reading

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To Conclude the Trader Story…

At the risk of sounding defensive, I feel that I have to clear a few things up with you guys regarding my last relationship. While trying to remain the better person and keeping my mouth shut and my fingers at … Continue reading

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What type of marriage would you want?

My family is still at the camp that as marriage is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make, they’d rather that we be single than marry the wrong person, grandkids or not. I’ve actually seen how marriage can … Continue reading

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Is “Nice” Enough to Make A Relationship?

People always think its better to date a nice guy. At least, he would never really hurt you. He can’t. He’s just too “nice.” Well, I did actually dated a guy because he was nice. Of course, the cute factor … Continue reading

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Breakup Etiquette: would you return the expensive gifts your ex gave you…

…if the reason you broke up was because you had a third party? Some people in my life had asked me to ask Trader for some of the gifts I gave him back. at the least, the most expensive ones. … Continue reading

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How to Make A Girl Like YOU

This is so true… Tried and tested… if you like someone: Step 1: Find a way to “connect” with them. In the Philippines, it’s easy enough so long as you have her number. Be non-threatening and start with a simple, … Continue reading

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“Why? Why? Why?”

In the aftermath of a breakup, we tend to ask ourselves repeatedly, “Why?” We look into ourselves for answers. We ask other people. We even at times implore our exes to share what we did to have them lose attraction … Continue reading

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I Feel the Changes

Five weeks since the breakup. But I will not talk about my breakup. Instead, I will share with you the many internal changes going with myself. Past is past, and the best thing to do in a failed relationship is … Continue reading

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I Need to be Strong

I am working on a pretty big pet project at the moment. It’s this project that makes me smile and drives me. It will come to play in 2012, and I can’t wait to unveil it in the next few … Continue reading

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Changes, changes, changes!

A few updates on how I’ve been doing so far in lovely London. If you may ask, I am thoroughly blessed even though it doesn’t really seem that way. For one, I am in the company of great friends, and … Continue reading

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What people told me today that gave me some level of comfort

My mom: “So Bonita if I were you, I would thank God for taking away Trader. Anyway if he either comes back by himself or by you calling him again, thank God for changing Trader and making him strong enough … Continue reading

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My best friend’s crash and burn

My best friend said that her new romance had crashed and burned. It was only a month or two since it began. She is a senior resident at a hospital. The guy is a junior resident with a complicated past. … Continue reading

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You think you’re so smart because you have an MBA?

Think again. We’re not. In fact, we’re pretty ordinary people. Like everyone else, we eat, sleep, go to the bathroom. We do everything that everyone does. In fact, if you ask us to stand in a line, it would be … Continue reading

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Before us (BU) and After us (AU)

Trader is in Bali with his friends, many of whom would be new. I am honestly unsure on how to handle it. Trader has never really been on a vacation with his friends — many of whom are new — … Continue reading

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How I met my ex…

I’ve always believed that talking has helped me deal with my problems. It’s actually if I don’t talk about my issues that they are left to fester and grow. We don’t want that of course. So let me tell you … Continue reading

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Loving Rachel Zoe!

“To be honest, there are a million people out there waiting to see me fail. It makes for a better story. It’s what people want to see. They don’t like success stories. So I have to work much harder to … Continue reading

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Mom’s reply to my letter – she wants me to have FOUR lovely kids!

Dear Bonita, Mom is happy for you because if Trader thinks that way, he is a responsible man. Trader wants 2 to 3 children. For us, we wanted you to have four kids with 2-years interval. Like now, we are … Continue reading

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Artjamming and dire results

Maybe it’s because of the 8.8 earthquake and x-sky high tsunami that hit Japan last Friday… Or the fact that Spain’s grading was downgraded… Or the fact that Ireland’s request of having their cost of borrowing reduced denied… Or the … Continue reading

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It’s so easy to forget the good things when you’re mad.

That’s what happens when you have an argument. Your heart rate goes up, your blood boils over and you just want to press the “Abort” button. You ask yourself, “What the hell am I doing here?” not really conscious of … Continue reading

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What I did in 2010… (Part I)

2010 had been a year of new beginnings and many changes. Here’s a brief rundown: January 2010: Trader and I had already been together for the last eight months and our relationship is rocky. We fight a lot because he … Continue reading

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T’is is NOT the Season to be Jolly!

Three couple friends in 24 hours. Two breakups. One on the way. Inasmuch that summer is moving towards autumn, breakup season signals its dire return. “Hon, can you please call me?” I asked Trader today after his work. There is … Continue reading

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Like a Branded Bag

A relationship is like a branded bag. When you see a woman toting a catchy bag, you cannot help but stare at what is in her arms. “I want one of those,” you jealously mutter to yourself. You windowshop until … Continue reading

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Met the Parents – Check

So we’ve met the parents. Great news: My parents, with the usual apprehensions, overall like him. Bad news: His parents towards me — not so much. Hardly surprising though. The least we could expect was that the weekend was no … Continue reading

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In Defense of Desperate Housewives

Traderr and I had a fight the day before yesterday because I was too stressed out when he shared his wish for me to be a home-maker once we get married. Not that I’m discounting the hard work being a … Continue reading

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Biggest Lessons in 2009

Trader asked me what my New Year’s resolutions are. His were to sleep earlier, play less video games and read more books. He’s just started getting addicted to video games and wanted to curb this time-wasting endeavor. “To be better … Continue reading

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“I dreamed a dream…”

As many of you know, I’ve always wanted an MBA. Ever since. It’s been my dream ever since I was in college, but I figured that I had to work 2 years or so to be eligible for the program. … Continue reading

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Trouble in paradise?

Trader and I are in a bit of a bind these days. On a gross twist of fate, his parents now hate  mine even though they’ve never even met, because they think my parents are mayabang (arrogant). Of course, Trader … Continue reading

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Happy Birthday to a 29 year-old me!

Last year, my parents told me that I can now officially date. Now turning 29, I’m dating this really nice guy, relocated to a new country and are celebrating by parent-sitting this week. My dad is constantly in my back … Continue reading

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Love only those who love you

Many a woman’s problems can be solved by following one rule: Love only the man who loves you more. Women aren’t really born and bred to chase after a man. In these days of independent powerful women who are used … Continue reading

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A real Rapunzel love story

The setting was perfect: the church was only booked by Manila’s finest and the reception was held at the Makati Shangri-la, one of the most expensive and opulent venues to hold a wedding. The bride’s mother cried and everybody sighed … Continue reading

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Why am I not a fan of malabong usapan (complicated relationships)?

1)      What for? As if I’m still looking for somebody else. Isn’t it better to just focus on your significant other? Usually for those who still like to keep their relationships “complicated,” they’re still on the lookout for someone better. … Continue reading

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Grass is Always Greener

Given that Trader and I are still on our 20s, that automatically translates that him and I cannot really enjoy quiet meals at high-class, ridiculously expensive restaurants with an overpriced bottle of wine. If I were to fly over to … Continue reading

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Why make things official?

Why make things official?  When my good friend posted photos of her and a Caucasian in semi-sweet positions on her Facebook account, as good as we are nosy, we immediately barraged her with teasing questions like, “Oh my, is that … Continue reading

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The one you love, or the one who loves you more?

Spent an emotional weekend with two of my boys and the difference between them couldn’t had been starker. Despite living in the same city as Trader, my ex-boyfriend only got to see me the day before I was supposed to leave. … Continue reading

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The Art of Successful Pickups

Today I met someone who I knew would be very good in picking up women. He made an impression on me and for all jilted men out there who thinks that picking up a woman is difficult, this is for … Continue reading

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Out with the old, in with the new

Broken relationships are like old shoes. You’ve worn them far too often till they are worn and torn. The shine is gone, and the skin are falling off, and yet, you cannot manage to tear yourself away from them. You … Continue reading

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Saying goodbye to 2008 — and hello to 2009!

2008 passed by so fast — where has it gone?  In a way, it seems that 2008 was the transitional year.  It was the year when I deepened my expertise in project and relationship management, in addition to actually making … Continue reading

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The Slow Disappear

I think I’m too rational for my own good — too logical, even-minded and fair. I had previously mentioned that men like drama. Sure, they get all pissed off and claim that their girl is psycho, but soon enough, you … Continue reading

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What I Need in a Man

I WANT MORE Attention: I need to know you are present, hopefully in body, but especially in spirit. That means getting rid of the evil blackberry once in a while… Courage and tenacity to last: Nothing about the future is … Continue reading

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Too much honesty?

Books had always advised us to play hard to get. To not show our true selves. To not call even if we want to. To pretend we are someone we’re not just to get someone to like us. Today, I’ve … Continue reading

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Choose Well — Live Better

People who know what they want are happier and make better choices. If you are aware of who you are and what you want, then can say no to those you don’t like, and say yes to what you want. … Continue reading

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Lesson of the Day

Just got home from a 17+ hour workday, feeling energized. There’s nothing better but to end the week without a backlog from work because you’ve slaved enough and finished everything that’s on your plate. 🙂 Today, received a call from … Continue reading

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Fate

It’s my belief that Fate has a hand to play in how our lives flow. Back when I was in university, I vowed to myself not to work in a computer company and a bank, mistakenly assuming that these would … Continue reading

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Wash, rinse, repeat

I am tired of the same SOP (standard operating procedure). Guy or girl calls, asks the other out for a date. You meet in a casual, noisy restaurant — at first with a dash of nervousness, but after the nth … Continue reading

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Ugly Duckling

Allow me to let you in a little secret — I was butt ugly as a child. Some kids were cute because they looked fat and adorable. Meanwhile, with my round face, small eyes and pug nose, I looked more … Continue reading

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Real

I wish there was a person with whom I can totally be real with. I’m tired of pretending. No, I’m not as confident as you may think. A lot of times, I doubt my own capabilities as well. Some people … Continue reading

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Ramblings

I am 20. I’ve never been out later than midnight. When I do so, my father sermons me till 3:00 am. 20 and with a curfew. Life sucks. Graduating very soon though. Looking forward to a career in brand management … Continue reading

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When in doubt…

From the Raven Archives – June 21, 2006 You pick up bits and pieces of treasure and trash, pain and pleasure, passions and disappointments, and you start throwing them in your bag, your big bag of experience. You do some … Continue reading

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Guy Critical

Last week has been a weird one for me. I spent S.A.D. (Singleness Awareness Day) among a handful of fellow hot singles sipping a nice-looking mocktail and chowing on delicious Japanese fusion food in Dozo. My friend had this bright … Continue reading

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Reunion

I met up with some former high school classmates last night for dinner at the popular Serendra in Makati. It’s amazing on how much we’ve grown over the last 9 years. Bee is now working in the family business and … Continue reading

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Goals

As I was studying in my childhood bedroom, my eyes fell on several pieces of paper taped atop my old study table. I felt nostalgic. Goodness knows how old I was when I first wrote those little notes. Specifically, they … Continue reading

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Guess what?

Listening to Linkin Park’s Krwlng from their album, “Reanimation…” Ex #2 is getting married this weekend! Wow, just can’t believe it… he’s the first guy I dated who got married (or shall we say remarried?) before moi. What’s even more … Continue reading

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Reflections of 2007…

2007: An Amazing Work-Centric Year As I look back and recollect the highlights of my year, it surprises me that most of the ups and downs were almost related to work! For example, here were some of 2007’s most notable … Continue reading

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Bricks and Mortar

I find Scheherazade’s metaphor of bricks and mortar beautiful. Bricks and mortar — these are words to describe what and how you choose to share yourself with those surrounding you. A brick is when you share about a big-ass project … Continue reading

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Why I’m in a Bad Mood Lately…

Dear Mom, Dad and Little Brother, I was very angry today. Nothing serious for you to worry about, but I’ve learned a painful lesson today. Being the head of my project, I had to make plans for the dinner venue … Continue reading

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Anatomy of a Breakup

I stayed up late till 5:00 am last night doing something else, and dealing with my brother’s ex-girlfriend issues. They have been going out for 2 years, and broke up just shy of a day from Valentine’s this year (and … Continue reading

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Doubts.

Mike’s coming is met with suspicion and a sense of uncertainty. Basically, according to readers Peter and Jane, he’s here for a booty call. And from my side, it seems so coincidental that he’s visiting Taiwan just to see his … Continue reading

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The End of 2006 — The Beginning of a New Year!

As 2006 has ended, now’s the time to look back and reminisce over the past year! Whereas 2005 was the year of intense organizational activities and social events, 2006 was the year of the self, career and a simpler lifestyle. … Continue reading

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