Category Archives: Ramblings

What to do when you encounter a crazy man who’s out to get you?

We went to a children’s party today.  During one of the games, my husband who was babysitting (yaya was in day-off) sat our 2-year old toddler in one of the seats previously occupied by another kid when she stood up.  … Continue reading

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Lesson of the Day: Engagement

I read an interesting article by Business Insider, “My 11-year-old son auditioned at Juilliard, and we both learned a lot about how top performers practice.” As I read the article, I can’t help but ask, “How engaged are we really … Continue reading

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Don’t borrow money. Just cut back.

For many Filipinos, it is easier to borrow money when times get tough. And to return the money when we already have money.  The problem is, it’s not easy to borrow money. If you have a habit of borrowing money, … Continue reading

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The Plight of the Single Mothers

There are many single mothers at the place I work in. A lot of them had their first child as a teenager, and most of them in their 20s. Who are the fathers? Well, half of them did not take responsibility, leaving … Continue reading

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Money Can’t Buy Class

The Met Gala is one of the biggest fashion events of the year. Celebrities and attendees have a chance to WOW everyone with their interpretation of a theme — this year it was Rei Kawakubo/Comme des Garçons — and show off their … Continue reading

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A Sister’s Advice to a Brother on his Wedding Day

Dear Brother, Welcome to the married club! Finally, you’ve decided to get married! And if you wonder why I’ve been less opinionated as of late, know I do so because I wanted you to make the most important decision in … Continue reading

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Liar Liar Pants on Fire

The 8th Commandment commands, “Thou shalt not lie.”   And yet, we continue to do so on a DAILY basis. I am aghast on how easily and naturally people lie. They tell white lies to “avoid hurting your feelings.” They commit crimes of … Continue reading

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The Price of Negligence

I have a 30+-year old assistant who has been with me for two Christmases. She is a single mother to a young boy, and was left by her boyfriend of 7-years who impregnated and soon married their ugly yet flirty neighbor. When … Continue reading

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How to Keep Sane — Prioritize Only 3 Things!

“Why does it seem as if time flies?” I asked my husband during lunch today. “I really wish that there are more than 24 hours in a day.” After I got married, I found myself short on time. But I am always … Continue reading

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What is Wrong with Working for Someone Else?

Dear Aspiring Entrepreneur, I’ve always found you to be very admirable. For one, you are very optimistic. Being optimistic despite the odds is a very good trait. It shows you have resilience, and have the ability to keep on smiling … Continue reading

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The Intricate Balance of Getting Along with Your Husband

I think marriage is about getting along with another person. Day in and day out, you’re pretty stuck with each other. And if you don’t get along well with each other, then life can really be hell. That’s why it’s really … Continue reading

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No Rest for the Weary Entrepreneur

I’ve learned a valuable lesson this week. If you are an entrepreneur, theoretically, there is no sleep and there is no rest. When we returned from a one-day vacation last June 2, husband and I were riding high from an awesome December … Continue reading

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Husband’s Guest Post — “My Wife Drives Me Nuts”

Does your mom, dad or sibling have a particular habit that just simply drives you nuts? Burping out loud, leaving the door open, cluttered mess… these sort of things? Now, take these irritations and multiply it by at least ten. … Continue reading

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Technology is EVIL

After over five months of marriage, Hubby and I remain happy and content in our togetherness. He still makes me coffee every morning and massages my tired feet every night. He helps clean the shower (I never seem to get … Continue reading

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My Husband Speaks — “Hello World!”

“I have something to tell you but don’t get mad,” my ex-girlfriend told me. “Because my ex-boyfriend went berserk when he found out about it.” “Unless you happen to be a professional drug lord kingpin or an axe murderer, I … Continue reading

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Labor in the Philippines: You Get What You Pay For

I realized that you always get what you pay for. This month, my business is looking for a junior administrative officer. The minimum wage is Php 466/day or Php 12,200/month (that’s USD 285 for 26 working days).  I’m willing to pay … Continue reading

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Me: The Green Eyed Monster

“I’m sorry, but you’ve had a cancelled line before and Globe cannot process your application for new phone lines if you don’t pay your bill,” the friendly customer service personnel informed my husband. “Huh? What do you mean?” my husband … Continue reading

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Disappointed with the Philippine Workforce

While I am lucky to have a few good men, I couldn’t help but observe how disappointing the Philippine workforce can be. There are just a lot of headaches that occur here that would probably not happen in Hong Kong and Taiwan. … Continue reading

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Enjoying Corporate Overseas OR Come Back and Build Your Own Business in Manila (Extra: The Hard and Joys of Coming Back Home)

So many of you have wondered whether you should give up your nice cushy job abroad and come back to the Philippines to start your own business. Having done both — going corporate and being self-employed — I feel I’m in the … Continue reading

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World War IV

My brother and I aren’t doing well. We just came off from a testy episode where my brother already cursed me to the noon, with the exception of “SOB” since that would mean cursing his/our own mother. As you can … Continue reading

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My Brother Has Crossed the Line and Became Unethical

Irrefutable fact: My boyfriend has brought in a new category of products to the Philippines. Before he brought it in, that product was non-existent. On a grand gesture, he offered my brother to be his official distributor last January, but … Continue reading

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I’m Different

I worry about things most women do not worry about. For one, I worry about money and income, and how to become financially independent. When I think about salary, I think about how your compensation is worth the time and … Continue reading

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The Night We Got Pulled Over By Cops for Lewd Behavior

Boyfriend and I went to the Top Gear Philippines party last night at Prive in Fort Bonifacio. Everything who’s a who’s who in the car industry was there. After the party, Boyfriend took me home. And of course, after an … Continue reading

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When Parental Guidance Become Toxic

When two people get together, they create themselves a bubble. They come up with their own cheesy languages and nicknames. They tell themselves inside jokes only they can understand. And they interact as if there’s nobody else in the room. They … Continue reading

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Lies that Keep you Single

A friend of mine shared the following article: “3 Lies That You Tell Yourself to Keep Yourself Single.” These are the following: I will never find a man who’ll love me. I’m not worthy of a great love. I will die … Continue reading

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Fake it till you make it — NOT!

I can’t really fake what I feel. Despite what other people say, my emotions can clearly be seen in my face. If I’m happy, I cannot help but laugh out loud. If I’m sad, I cannot help but be bothered. … Continue reading

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Yes, Looks DO Matter! 5 Ways to Look Better!

Let’s admit it. Physical attractiveness matters. In fact, it would be a complete lie if a person tells you that appearances means nothing, and even if you let yourself go, you can still make your partner’s blood boil really hard. … Continue reading

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Dumpy, Dumpy?

Three years into her relationship, the girlfriend simply started to let go. She would wear flip-flops to the office. Started relaxing on that diet and gained weight here and there. Got fat. Wore dumpy clothes because tight clothes were uncomfortable, … Continue reading

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No Contact is Tough

For someone I’ve been talking to in a daily basis for 2.5 years, just going cold turkey is kinda tough. You for moments wonder what’s going on with them. Luckily, I haven’t stopped living my life after I got into … Continue reading

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Enjoying London: Picadilly Circle

This may have been the smartest suggestion of the week: as we homesick pups are starting to miss our Asian fare, we’ve decided to head over to London’s Chinatown for some “authentic” (cough, cough) Chinese food. Chinatown or Soho is … Continue reading

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You think you’re so smart because you have an MBA?

Think again. We’re not. In fact, we’re pretty ordinary people. Like everyone else, we eat, sleep, go to the bathroom. We do everything that everyone does. In fact, if you ask us to stand in a line, it would be … Continue reading

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How I met my ex…

I’ve always believed that talking has helped me deal with my problems. It’s actually if I don’t talk about my issues that they are left to fester and grow. We don’t want that of course. So let me tell you … Continue reading

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So yes, I’m a total klutz…

People who know me think that I’m confident and all that. Maybe it’s because I’m thoroughly opinionated and seem to know what to say, even though we all know that at times it can be kinda stupid. Most people do … Continue reading

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Feeling pressured after meeting the parents

Hi Bonita, How did you survive this weekend with your in laws. Please share. Love, mom REPLY: Dear mom, The weekend went really well. Trader’s family is just very warm, loving and I left the weekend feeling very loved and … Continue reading

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Guess what – I’m on Twitter @ #alphatsinay

Our professor has asked us to do a case on Twitter, that miniblogging networking site where you tell everyone about your day at 140 words or less. Given that I’ve seen less stellar Twitter-feeds (yes, my friends… I am a … Continue reading

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Slackers in the midst – go away!

A lot of my you who read my blog loyally may have a lot of opinions about me. But let me share with you what others think of me. And all I can say is that I’m not really sure … Continue reading

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Look… it makes me REALLY happy…

Allow me to be a bit obnoxious for a bit, but let me tell you a little secret. Everytime someone subscribes to my blog by inputting their email addresses on this teeny-tiny box on your right, WordPress sends me this … Continue reading

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Welcoming 2011!

We welcome 2011 after a long shower of fireworks in the sky. Celebrating new year’s in the Philippines has always been a blast. At times, it feels that  a real war was going on outside given the noise of fireworks … Continue reading

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It’s all downhill for Singapore?

I’ve noticed that there are far more non-Singaporeans in Singapore nowadays. These are the men who man the Kilkenny Coffeeshops or sell cosmetics at Isetan.   “The problem is that the Singaporean youth is far too sheltered,” one insider had commented. … Continue reading

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I wish I was a bit more ladylike…

More frills and pastels. Lovely bows and soft chiffon. Twinkles and stardust. A woman can show her strength in her delicacy. It’s an art, me thinks, and I don’t really have that ability to pull it off. I find giggling … Continue reading

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Doubts – and hope

When people find out that I’m nearing the big 3-0, the inevitable questions start… “Do Trader and yourself have plans of getting married?” “Had your parents start pressuring you to get married? I know mine am…” And who can blame … Continue reading

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Seven Points of Clarity

It’s amazing – this clarity in my life. First, that I love Trader. He is truly one of who balances me out. Though I can honestly go psycho at times, he is still here, and for that, I am very … Continue reading

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I feel empty.

I woke up today at 8:30 am, and got to work at a freaking late 9:30 am (considering the morning meeting starts at 7:30 am). I didn’t get too irritated or worked up after one of the salesdesk heads make … Continue reading

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Counter-dependent?

I think I may be counter-dependent according to this article. We quote: The Weinholds lay out some distinctive counter-dependent traits in their book, such as having trouble getting close to people and difficulty sustaining intimacy in romantic relationships. Other characteristics … Continue reading

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Rogue

I wish at times I can be sweet, docile and extremely accommodating. Instead, I am pig-headed, opinionated, and don’t just like being led on a leash. These days, I find it hard to make the right decisions for me. At … Continue reading

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Martyrdom

My mom gave my dad everything. She gave him the drumstick, the best part of a chicken. She manages his financea. She peeled his crabs and made these irritating things ready to eat. My dad never kept a phone book … Continue reading

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The truth about aging

Let’s admit it, ladies. We will never really look as fresh as we did when we were in our early 20’s. Cellulite starts attacking us as we hit out quarter life crisis and my first forehead wrinkles appeared this year. … Continue reading

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Upset…

…and I don’t really know why. Do you have these days? Guess it’s because Trader was really tired and he let it slip out that though he wasn’t ready to get married right now. Actually, what he meant was today … Continue reading

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“Tampo”

The Filipino word “tampo” is interesting. In English, it means, “to pull a tantrum.” In Taiwan, the words “sa jiao” are closer to the meaning, which is a woman trying to act like a child to entrance a man to … Continue reading

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Illogical thoughts this evening

Life isn’t really that rosy with Trader. Not that he’s not great because he is (for example, everyone’s who seen his photo knows that he’s Mr. Nice Guy and is dying to introduce him to their single girlfriends), but maybe, … Continue reading

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Off Days

Trader’s covering for his two colleagues who are on leave right now and doesn’t pay too much attention to me during the daytime. Unfortunately, a friend of mine stayed with me for two evenings thus ensuring that I’m usually busy … Continue reading

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How do you know if he/she is the One?

Answering the question, “How do you know if he/she is the One?” my mom has her words of wisdom to share: “As you always asked mom – how would I know if the guy is meant for me or not? … Continue reading

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Happy – yet Rambles

In Chinese, there’s a saying, “Nansheng bu huai, nu sheng bu ai.” (A girl can only love a bad boy). The fact that such saying exists shows that there’s some truth to it. As you can well see on past … Continue reading

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Lost Boys

It amazes me that age has limited correlation to maturity. No matter how competent or professional a guy may seem at work, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s in a right place or time to pursue a woman for a stable … Continue reading

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How am I these days?

Apologies for the lack of updates. Unfortunately, May and June are just hell months at work, and given that I’ve started dating Trader, evenings are now reverted to my time with him with us talking in the phone for hours. … Continue reading

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The Long, Hard Wait

The hardest thing I think for a woman is to do nothing. Gone are the days when women are asked to stay at home and reproduce. Now, the world has changed and with it, women stand side by side with … Continue reading

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Convoluted ramblings

To be honest, it’s not really hard for me to meet men. They’re all over, and most will be happy to play. For example, last weekend, I attended a dinner where I met three eligible bachelors from different parts of the world. … Continue reading

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The Plight of your Boyfriend’s Best Girl-Dash-Friend

Yes, I’m The Other Woman. In your imagination, I’m the malicious woman who plots to steal your Significant Other away, which is exactly what I’m desperately trying to do (that’s sarcasm if you still didn’t get it). I’m the woman … Continue reading

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The one you love, or the one who loves you more?

Spent an emotional weekend with two of my boys and the difference between them couldn’t had been starker. Despite living in the same city as Trader, my ex-boyfriend only got to see me the day before I was supposed to leave. … Continue reading

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Dichotomy of Life

Life is a dichotomy. For every one thing, there is always another thing balancing it out. For example: The flip side of being bright is being opinionated. The flip side of being analytical is being difficult. The flip side of … Continue reading

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Does clothes make the man?

“Clothes make the man,” a famous saying once said. “And it’s true, people judge us from what we wear.” People who know me see that I dress a tad sexier than other women especially in the weekends.   To be honest, … Continue reading

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Q&A

Q: So why are you still single? A: Because most of the guys think I’m too tall… Q: (shocked) You’re not THAT tall! How tall are you? A: 166 cms? Q: That’s just the average for women ya… A: Have … Continue reading

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Where’s home?

My friend writes to me that he’s going back to Manila after a decade in New York. “My father is getting older and he needs someone to run the family business,” he explains. “Sayang naman (Such a pity) if nobody … Continue reading

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Saying goodbye to 2008 — and hello to 2009!

2008 passed by so fast — where has it gone?  In a way, it seems that 2008 was the transitional year.  It was the year when I deepened my expertise in project and relationship management, in addition to actually making … Continue reading

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Merry Christmas!

Though am spending the holidays alone, there are three things to celebrate about: 1) Just found a home and signed a contract (God help me… the rent is mighty expensive!). 2) Heck, we get two days off, can you believe … Continue reading

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Resurfacing

The bus rambles from the background. I hear it from my huge window, covered with a sheer curtain. In her beautiful shoebox, Bonita is lonely. It’s been awhile since I’ve ever felt this — being truly alone. A stranger in … Continue reading

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Top 5 Blehs of Fashion 2008

Personally think that I’m not your typical fashionable chick, but there are some trends that I just can’t help but cringe. Blame it on Lindsay Lohan, the Ashley twins, the grungy Mischa Barton and even Lauren Conrad. One look and … Continue reading

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Stop Complaining!

People usually complain because they’re dissatisfied with something. We’ve all been a victim of this — we complain about our mates, our work, our salaries, our bosses, our family… the list just goes on and on. This morning, I overheard … Continue reading

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3rd Time’s a Charm

My blog is my journal. A way to express my deepest thoughts, my secret fears, my constant insecurities. It’s a venue where I can freely show who I am without judgement, talk to myself with nobody thinking I’m bonkers, and … Continue reading

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Male Competition

Last night, I bumped into a guy friend of mine at Barcode. He is one of my best female friend’s colleague, and an expat here in Taipei. We met around a month ago at another friend’s opening night, played darts … Continue reading

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