Category Archives: Boyfriend

Wives: We are the Problem!

I am a part of a popular mommy group. Many of them complain about their husbands. A few complain of their husband’s addiction to video games. “I am exhausted and take care of the baby 24/7, while his nose is … Continue reading

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When your husband annoys you during a Coldplay concert

Years before, I told myself that if Coldplay was holding a concert in the same country, I would definitely watch it. Apparently, they’re one of the few bands that put on a great show and authentically sing in their concerts. So … Continue reading

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A Sister’s Advice to a Brother on his Wedding Day

Dear Brother, Welcome to the married club! Finally, you’ve decided to get married! And if you wonder why I’ve been less opinionated as of late, know I do so because I wanted you to make the most important decision in … Continue reading

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Second Chances

A friend of mine told me that his son was sullen and depressed following a failed marriage. He married young at 21 years old, at a time his now wife was 3 months pregnant, much to the chagrin of everybody. … Continue reading

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A Reason for Everything

I believe that there is a reason for everything. When things don’t go our way, there’s usually a hidden plan behind it. I remembered when I was in Taiwan, I applied for a marketing position in DeBeers, one of the world’s … Continue reading

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Don’t Get Pregnant When You’re Not Yet Ready

Since I’m in the topic of motherhood, I’d like to talk about the rampancy of unwed single mothers in the Philippines. To place it in context, I work in a business that hires a lot of women. Since our products cater … Continue reading

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All Failed Relationships Lead You to the Right One

The first guy I dated worked as a waiter, became a restaurant cook and ended up to be a holistic masseuse in Japan. He was a high school graduate who felt he was inferior against college graduates because they have a degree and … Continue reading

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Getting Married > Being Happy

My friend asked me why it’s so hard to find a lasting relationship. She is already 38 years old, and have just broken up with her Korean-American boyfriend of 9 months. They have had a long distance relationship. Her ultimate dream … Continue reading

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What Type of Girl Finds Boyfriends Easily

I’ve noticed that there are some women who will simply end up with a man. While there are some with prolonged dry spells and are single even in their late 30s. I noticed one characteristic that many women who actually have boyfriends … Continue reading

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Top 5 Reasons Why Couples Divorce Very Quickly

It is every girl’s dream to be married. From the time they were young, they dream of wearing the perfect dress, walking down the aisle to a song they’ve picked from high school, looking to the crying eyes of her Prince Charming. … Continue reading

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Stalkerish Much?

Unlike many women, I like accompanying my husband everywhere he goes. My mom used to go with my father everywhere so history repeats itself. A friend used to tell me that the one time that my father went to Europe without … Continue reading

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How Important is Sexual Compatibility? (Warning: NSFW)

It’s Sunday, and I’m in a good mood. Plus the Fifty Shades of Grey movie is coming out this week. So I will honestly answer what many people want to ask but are afraid to. “How important is sexual compatibility in a relationship? … Continue reading

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Have you found your “Soul Equal?”

This has been reprinted from Debra Faith Warshaw’s article, “There is Something Better Than Finding a Soulmate“ I find this article quite accurate. With ex-boyfriend Trader, I was the more dominant partner. Frankly, I felt he was holding me down, and … Continue reading

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What would happen if I didn’t marry my husband

I was thinking about what my life would be if I did not marry my husband. If I married my first boyfriend, it would’ve been a loveless marriage.  It was a one-sided relationship which started wrongly — with Michan first … Continue reading

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6 Reasons Why Women Are Still Single

I have a lot of single girl friends. And they’re worried. They’re worried that they don’t have anyone special in their lives. They’re worried that they won’t find The One. They’re worried that they’ll be single forever. I have a lot of girl … Continue reading

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The Tinghun List

Praise the Lord that my future in-laws are so good. As per Chinese tradition, they are gifting me with a semi-traditional engagement party (tinghun). Whereas in many Filipino-Chinese families, tinghuns are no longer mandatory, they’re still definitely a nice to have. … Continue reading

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Wedding Prep #4: The Perils and Joys of Finding the Right Wedding Dress Online AND Offline!

Since fiancee and I met online, I found it fitting to actually try to order my wedding dress online. Unlike many brides who have their couturier design their gowns from scratch, I wanted to see the final look and feel … Continue reading

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I’m Not Perfect — Are You?

When I was in Hong Kong, most guys never really bent on bended knee to ask a girl to marry him. It happened, sure, but not like here in the Philippines where a guy dates a girl a few months … Continue reading

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Wedding Prep #2: Secure a Venue for the Wedding

Wedding preparation is harder than I thought. Having organized a gazillion events back in university, at work and after work in at least four countries, I thought organizing a wedding should be a piece of cake. “Why the hell would … Continue reading

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Boyfriend Proposed…

…last weekend. It was during awarding, at the largest and most prestigious car show in the Philippines. My company’s car won third place, while his won second. After receiving our prizes, he gave a short speech about how I was his … Continue reading

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World War IV

My brother and I aren’t doing well. We just came off from a testy episode where my brother already cursed me to the noon, with the exception of “SOB” since that would mean cursing his/our own mother. As you can … Continue reading

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“Whoops, I’m Accidentally Pregnant”

A friend of mine got his girlfriend pregnant. According to her, it was a “Whoops!” moment. “Yes, need to save up because the baby’s on the way,” he sheepishly said. They have already been dating for 7 years. The last time … Continue reading

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My Brother Has Crossed the Line and Became Unethical

Irrefutable fact: My boyfriend has brought in a new category of products to the Philippines. Before he brought it in, that product was non-existent. On a grand gesture, he offered my brother to be his official distributor last January, but … Continue reading

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I’m Different

I worry about things most women do not worry about. For one, I worry about money and income, and how to become financially independent. When I think about salary, I think about how your compensation is worth the time and … Continue reading

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The Night We Got Pulled Over By Cops for Lewd Behavior

Boyfriend and I went to the Top Gear Philippines party last night at Prive in Fort Bonifacio. Everything who’s a who’s who in the car industry was there. After the party, Boyfriend took me home. And of course, after an … Continue reading

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Happy birthday to ME!

It’s that time of the year again where I celebrate yet another birthday. Honestly, I feel I’m growing old way too fast and find myself trying to hold on desperately to my youth. I mean, where the heck did my … Continue reading

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Do You Still Find the Opposite Sex Attractive While in a Loving Relationship?

I’m a Libra, with my birthday coming up next week. Among the zodiac, Libras are known to be fun, playful and slightly flirtatious. We like to pretty ourselves a lot, and if unaware, you can always catch us checking ourselves … Continue reading

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When Parental Guidance Become Toxic

When two people get together, they create themselves a bubble. They come up with their own cheesy languages and nicknames. They tell themselves inside jokes only they can understand. And they interact as if there’s nobody else in the room. They … Continue reading

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I am NOT Passive Aggressive

I’m the opposite of passive aggressive. By definition according to Urban Dictionary, Passive Aggressiveness is “a defense mechanism that allows people who aren’t comfortable of being openly aggressive to still get what they want under the guise of still trying … Continue reading

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Neither Here Nor There – What Happens in a Relationship Limbo?

It’s amazing just how much women settle in order to find and keep love. Last night, I met a 28-year old woman who works in real estate. She was complaining about her dire love life. “I like this guy, but … Continue reading

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Lies that Keep you Single

A friend of mine shared the following article: “3 Lies That You Tell Yourself to Keep Yourself Single.” These are the following: I will never find a man who’ll love me. I’m not worthy of a great love. I will die … Continue reading

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Rush to See “Rush”

I LOVED the movie, “Rush.” Starring Chris Hemsworth in a role that didn’t have a mythical hammer in it, and Daniel Bruhl, who transforms himself into an arrogant yet meticulous German F1 World Champion, Rush brings us back to the … Continue reading

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Purity Ring and MORE

Last weekend, Boyfriend, with all the solemness he could muster, gave me a purity ring. As you all know, Boyfriend and I have been attending Christian pre-engagement, pre-marital counseling. As part of our curriculum, we were asked to preserve our … Continue reading

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Fake it till you make it — NOT!

I can’t really fake what I feel. Despite what other people say, my emotions can clearly be seen in my face. If I’m happy, I cannot help but laugh out loud. If I’m sad, I cannot help but be bothered. … Continue reading

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Yes, Looks DO Matter! 5 Ways to Look Better!

Let’s admit it. Physical attractiveness matters. In fact, it would be a complete lie if a person tells you that appearances means nothing, and even if you let yourself go, you can still make your partner’s blood boil really hard. … Continue reading

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They’re Engaged!!!

My Bible Group Leader just got engaged after less than 2 months of dating. It was announced just today via Facebook of all things, and so far, the status update is now at 200 congratulations and counting! 🙂 I always … Continue reading

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Don’t Look for Love. Look for the Right Person to Fall in Love With.

The average age for a Filipino to get married is 22.6 years old. For men, it’s at a higher 25.8 years. For people in richer, urban areas, expect this number to be higher, say 26 to 28 years old for … Continue reading

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Taming of Tongue

I love my boyfriend. He is one of the most hard working, sweetest, and most competent guys I know. Since being with him for 9 months now, I haven’t really seen him try to fool or cheat anyone. He conducts … Continue reading

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Too Fast, Too Soon?

A friend of mine shared that her and her boyfriend broke up a few weeks ago. They’ve been dating for more than half a year. Understandably, she was devastated. I think hers is a case of giving up too much, … Continue reading

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Happy monthsary!

On my last relationship, the first few months was bumpy. Without any reason at all, I was constantly frustrated and picked a fight the night before one of us would fly to each other. Consequently, our dates weren’t usually off … Continue reading

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A Leap of Faith

Life is but a constant leap of faith. If you’re not really closing your eyes and making a few leaps once in a while, you probably ain’t living your life to the full. –-Bonita The last two days had been … Continue reading

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Taxi Theory in the Philippines

Everyone who’s a fan of Sex and the City knows about the encompassing Taxi Theory. As stated by the great romantic cynic, Miranda Hobbes, “Men are like cabs. When they’re ready to get married, they turn their light on. The next woman they pick … Continue reading

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I am glad I didn’t marry earlier

This wonderful article, Do Not Marry Before Age 30, pretty much sums up how I feel about marriage. Sure, you might blame me for copping out, telling me that I could only feel this way because I wasn’t lucky enough to … Continue reading

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Mommy Time – 2x a Week!

Context: Ever since my dad passed away last February, my brother and I had been happy to invite and take my mom out for dinner, for movies, and elsewhere. This helps her avoid depression since my parents have always been … Continue reading

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Marriage Counseling before Engagement?

We went to the Mega 10 Most Beautiful People event at Haze last Thursday. The place was relatively empty till around 9:30pm, but started filling in up until the start of the formalities at around 11:30pm. It’s funny. The event … Continue reading

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Am I Happy I Went Back?

A few weeks ago, I was visited by some friends from Hong Kong. It was my mentor back when I was working in a British bank, and he brought some of his high-flying friends. They were looking to invest in … Continue reading

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Reprint: Which Male Archetype Are You?

1. The Needy Guy He is overly emotional and shares all his feelings with  her right away. The Needy Guy also doubts himself and needs constant reassurance  about his relationship, work and friendships. Why he is so  unappealing: Confidence and … Continue reading

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Love makes ordinary things become extraordinary

“Love makes ordinary things become extraordinary” — Bonita after spending 15 hours straight with Boyfriend last weekend. We did all the mundane stuff. Went to church. Had chicken and pasta/potatoes lunch. He napped. I watched Pitch Perfect and The Secret … Continue reading

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Is Relationship Hard Work?

Are relationships really hard work? I’ve read an article from Thought Catalog that reacts to Ben Afflect’s thank you speech to wifey, Jennifer Gardner, citing that marriage has been hard work and yet how glorious is it to work hard … Continue reading

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Update: Three Months and Everyone’s Pressuring Us to Get Married!

Boyfriend and I had been blissfully dating for the last three months. At this point in time, he is now automatically invited to family events and dinners, and vice versa. The funny thing though, everyone around us — my mom, … Continue reading

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Talking of the Future

I joined my boyfriend’s family last night for dinner at the Marriott Hotel buffet. This is nice — When your boyfriend’s parents like having you around, as you are blessed to be in their company. “This is how an ideal relationship … Continue reading

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Changing for Love?

My Taiwanese sister, who is a lot like me, is in an unhappy relationship. This is what she said: “His family is traditional.” “He wants me to be his ‘house’ wife, to cook breakfast, lunch and dinner for him. He gives me … Continue reading

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To Conclude the Trader Story…

At the risk of sounding defensive, I feel that I have to clear a few things up with you guys regarding my last relationship. While trying to remain the better person and keeping my mouth shut and my fingers at … Continue reading

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The Pros of Online Dating (And How I Met Someone There)

There were also a lot of cool surprises in the New Year. I met someone in the end of August 2012. After exchanging a gazillion emails, we met and hit it right off. Everyone thought we were moving too fast. … Continue reading

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Have you ever been in a ‘useless’ relationship?

Have you ever been in a useless relationship? You know, the type of relationship where you know there’s a definite expiry date and an ending? The one where you got in just for the hell of it fully knowing that … Continue reading

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Is “Nice” Enough to Make A Relationship?

People always think its better to date a nice guy. At least, he would never really hurt you. He can’t. He’s just too “nice.” Well, I did actually dated a guy because he was nice. Of course, the cute factor … Continue reading

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Breakup Etiquette: would you return the expensive gifts your ex gave you…

…if the reason you broke up was because you had a third party? Some people in my life had asked me to ask Trader for some of the gifts I gave him back. at the least, the most expensive ones. … Continue reading

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“Why? Why? Why?”

In the aftermath of a breakup, we tend to ask ourselves repeatedly, “Why?” We look into ourselves for answers. We ask other people. We even at times implore our exes to share what we did to have them lose attraction … Continue reading

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Back in the Dating Scene?

A month after my breakup… wow, how time flies. It hasn’t been an easy journey but oh, how invigorating the process was. Over the last four weeks, I’ve done a lot of self-reflection, making changes where I saw fit. And … Continue reading

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I still feel awful BUT…

…to be honest, I’ve had a pretty spectacular week. Let’s see, on Monday, I met a new friend and we ate at Pizza Hut. I met even more new friends when I went to a Moroccan gathering. Ate tons of … Continue reading

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What people told me today that gave me some level of comfort

My mom: “So Bonita if I were you, I would thank God for taking away Trader. Anyway if he either comes back by himself or by you calling him again, thank God for changing Trader and making him strong enough … Continue reading

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No Contact is Tough

For someone I’ve been talking to in a daily basis for 2.5 years, just going cold turkey is kinda tough. You for moments wonder what’s going on with them. Luckily, I haven’t stopped living my life after I got into … Continue reading

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Trader and I broke up

I am crying and hurt. Even though I know things will be okay one day, I am still heartbroken. Please let me know how to get over a broken heart. I think him I can get over, but it’s just … Continue reading

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Getting Married?

Trader’s 26-year old little sis is getting married today. Or is already married if we followed Asian times. His sister is pretty cute/hot/beautiful. She’s not that tall, but has this lovely almond shaped head and eyes. She looks like a … Continue reading

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One Big Fight – A Bad Weekend Start

Last night, Trader and I had a big fight. As I’ve already started my internship at an investment bank, I was merely having around 5.5 hours of sleep a night on weekdays. As a derivatives trader, he also needs his … Continue reading

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Trader was here

Trader and I have hit quite a rough patch lately. That’s what happens when all your friends are getting married and having babies and your boyfriend have yet to get all his ducks in a row. Actually, our issue stems … Continue reading

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How did you deal with your breakup?

My friend is mourning… Her ex broke up with her three months ago, citing “I just don’t see you in my future.” Afterwards, she proceeded to de-friend him from Facebook and he proceeded to de-friend all her mutual acquaintances from … Continue reading

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Before us (BU) and After us (AU)

Trader is in Bali with his friends, many of whom would be new. I am honestly unsure on how to handle it. Trader has never really been on a vacation with his friends — many of whom are new — … Continue reading

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Relationships are all about sacrifice

Today, Trader met my parents for the second time. The last time left a bad taste in both sides’ mouth. Trader was darn scared of my dad and felt that my father was a tad unappreciative and selfish (which btw, … Continue reading

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ONE rule to remember when choosing a parther: Pick someone who treats you right

A friend of mine messaged me for a talk. For some reason, friends would call me for no-bullshit advice on love and relationships. As it turns out, my friend who is a he, was in serious like over a great-looking … Continue reading

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Some people are just genius…

They can figure things out without you saying too much. Unbelieveable. 🙂 Trader is unhappy with the past couple days when I haven’t really been home early. What can I say? My class ends at 10:30pm, and the transportation time … Continue reading

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How I met my ex…

I’ve always believed that talking has helped me deal with my problems. It’s actually if I don’t talk about my issues that they are left to fester and grow. We don’t want that of course. So let me tell you … Continue reading

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Musings a few weeks before we’re almost done in HK…

In a few weeks, the last classes for the Spring semester ends, heralding the end of all of 115 of us HKUST MBAs would be in Hong Kong together. Afterwards, come June, we start our internships with only a few … Continue reading

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Chat of the Day – Eeeehhh?

Me: “My mom has been asking me questions again.” Trader: “What does she want to know?” Me: “She wants to know when I will get married.” Trader: “Oh gosh. Hahahaha actually my parents haven’t been mentioning you anymore.” (Quicknote: Trader’s … Continue reading

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Four Types of Men – Which one is your significant other?

A married classmate told me, there were four types of men you’ll meet in your life (Men: you can use this for women too!): 1) The man who loves you the most. 2) The man whom you love the most. … Continue reading

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Would you break up with your partner because he is cheap?

My friend wants to breakup with her high-profile boyfriend because surprisingly, he is not a generous person. Okay, so that’s me becoming more diplomatic and politically correct. In Bonita’s wording, he is cheap. Yes, cheap. “My friend’s sex buddy treats … Continue reading

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Cold feet – got it?

My best friend just broke up with her boyfriend of four years three weeks ago. Out of the blue, he sent her an SMS saying that “He wanted time to think.” Troubled, she gave him a call and he told … Continue reading

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Mom’s reply to my letter – she wants me to have FOUR lovely kids!

Dear Bonita, Mom is happy for you because if Trader thinks that way, he is a responsible man. Trader wants 2 to 3 children. For us, we wanted you to have four kids with 2-years interval. Like now, we are … Continue reading

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Feeling pressured after meeting the parents

Hi Bonita, How did you survive this weekend with your in laws. Please share. Love, mom REPLY: Dear mom, The weekend went really well. Trader’s family is just very warm, loving and I left the weekend feeling very loved and … Continue reading

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Back in Hong Kong

Spent a lovely weekend in Phuket with Trader. We spent a few days at the quiet Surin Beach where unlike the more infamous Patong beach, there were: a) less prostitutes, b) more seclusion, and c) average-wise, we were probably the … Continue reading

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It’s so easy to forget the good things when you’re mad.

That’s what happens when you have an argument. Your heart rate goes up, your blood boils over and you just want to press the “Abort” button. You ask yourself, “What the hell am I doing here?” not really conscious of … Continue reading

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The death of the romantic boyfriend

Written last February 11 and wasn’t posted: Trader flying over to Hong Kong tomorrow for our once-a-month-let’s-see-each-other trip, romantic. The fact that he’s informed me not to have any expectations for a gift because he didn’t have any. Trader doesn’t … Continue reading

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A lot of people want to get married – but fail to ask the right questions…

It’s been said that we ask more questions when we’re purchasing a big ticket item like a car or a house, than about the guy we want to get married to. Take my older sister for example, she was old … Continue reading

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I’m sniffing and for all the wrong reasons

Trader flew in last Friday for Valentine’s Day with at least a Valentine’s Day card and an apologetic grin. He found my letter to be “hilarious,” and did his best to reassure me that he’s in it for the long-run. … Continue reading

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The Breakup Letter

 Fact: I am very happy that you’re flying here. I’ve missed you and it’ll be great to see you again.   My mind is just exhausted from Spring semester but let me try to explain myself. What I’ve heard … Continue reading

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How my LDR works

When people hear that I’m in a long distance relationship, their mouths go agape and immediately forecast impending doom. “Oooh, long distance relationships does NOT work. How can you be far apart from each other THAT long?” I sincerely don’t … Continue reading

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Finding a job and a boyfriend is more or less the same

The more I think about it, the more convinced I am that finding love and an internship/job is more or less the same. Here are the many ways: 1) The one you end up with may be the least you’d … Continue reading

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What if his parents hate you?

Those who’s been reading my blog know that Trader’s parents don’t like me as much. They have done all they can to discourage him from dating me even to the point of once giving the ultimatum that he had to … Continue reading

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You really cannot have it all…

My boyfriend wants me to shut up. He thinks I talk far too much and after a hard day’s work, all he wants is to relax in front of the TV, enjoy the silence, and have me cook a nice … Continue reading

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To Go or NOT to GO?

Trader and I have recently been discussing travel plans and he’s tentatively invited me to his family holidays in South Africa this December 2011. Hence, not wanting to make any radical decisions, I’ve asked my mom for advice. Her wisdom … Continue reading

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At times, I feel that I am the male in our house…

Trader and I were discussing the successful Portugal bond offering tonight. Unlike many couples who talk about movies they watched or food they ate, our discussions in the evening can reach to the weird (i.e., how foreign companies handle Chinese … Continue reading

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What I did in 2010… (Part I)

2010 had been a year of new beginnings and many changes. Here’s a brief rundown: January 2010: Trader and I had already been together for the last eight months and our relationship is rocky. We fight a lot because he … Continue reading

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10 Things I Want this Christmas

1) A customer-facing sales job in the sell-side… please, I ain’t smart enough for anything else! Haha, but honestly, it’s more of an ideal fit to my customer-focused, results-oriented personality. 2) A light-colored Bottega Veneta shoulder bag. Not that I’m … Continue reading

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The first daybreak after finals!

Spending my first days of my three week holidays with Trader in Singapore. I left almost as soon as I finished my final exams. After 12 classes, 24 units out of 52, we are now done with our first fall … Continue reading

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“I’ll break up with you if you work for XX”

Just recently, my boyfriend told me that he’ll break up with me if I ever work for Goldman Sachs. He also works in the financial industry and knows just how much time and dedication required to be enlisted at GS. … Continue reading

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What’s the point of hiding? :)

Classmates can be crazy at times. They think that we don’t know, but actually, we do. Take for example, if you secretly hold hands while going out with us in Wanchai, of course, there’s a chance someone would see, right? … Continue reading

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More options = better?

“Does it frustrate you that you only have one body/life/job/girlfriend?” I nonchalantly asked Trader. I have this silly tendency of asking totally random questions which trouble him very much. “I mean, for example, per day, despite the many options you … Continue reading

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Money, money, money…

Phew, we just finished our first exams and my hands are aching. That’s around 3 hour’s worth of writing, yo! 🙂 Anyway, the topic for today is all about money. Trader and I got into an intense argument yesterday because … Continue reading

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Are Crushes Dangerous?

I’m thinking about writing a post on crushes. But posts like these often times get me to trouble. Different from when we were younger, crushes are no longer as harmless as they seem. Especially if you’re already in a committed … Continue reading

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So how to keep a relationship while in MBA?

I was talking to one grad student today and she mentioned that she was part of the “statistic.” When I asked her what she meant, she mentioned that she was one of the many who came in business school with … Continue reading

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