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About Bonita

I'm a forgetful person. But I think a lot. Every day, a lot of thoughts enter my head. That's why this blog came to be: first, to keep my memories alive through the years, and two, to actually see how I and my thoughts have changed. Please note that I seldom draft or edit my posts. Sometimes, if I'm not careful, I offend some of you, my readers. And while I apologize for making you feel uncomfortable, I am not sorry for being honest or for making well-intentioned mistakes. I will however be the first to admit if I change my mind. Hence, do read and proceed with caution. My life is as colorful and as boring as you make it. I complain many days, but offer some encouragement in others. Life is fluid, it changes. So keep the positives and throw away the negatives, and I do hope that at the end of the day, you will enjoy reading the blog and leaving comments here and there if my posts touches you. Happy reading!

“Hindi Pwedeng Hindi” (Never say Never)

When I worked at a prestigious investment bank, I asked my assistant to DHL a very important time-critical document to one of our largest clients. It was her visa, which will allow her to fly to Taiwan that Sunday for … Continue reading

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My Daughter is Raised by a Community

I have never prided myself as a Supermom. The first time I bathed my baby was when she was 13 months old. That was also the time I cleaned up my baby’s poo. My husband was absurdly hurt, and I … Continue reading

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Why I celebrate my daughter’s 2 year old birthday even though she’s too young to remember

My husband thinks I’m crazy. “Why do you even need to celebrate her birthday party? She’s only two,” he said. “She is way too young to remember.” He sees me buying stuff for her lootbag. I am very happy with … Continue reading

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Don’t Be Boastful When Mad

My husband screamed at me today. Two days ago, he asked me to help him to transfer money overseas. My supplier gives me better rates than his, so he asked for my assistance, which I timely gave. Today, his supplier … Continue reading

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Lessons from Harvey Weinstein

Harvey Weinstein is a powerful Hollywood producer. He is also a man who raped and sexually harassed many women. Weinstein used his position to place women in compromising positions and sexually abuse them. Here are just the impartial list of women … Continue reading

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Busted!

My friend J, who I have talked about in this post, “When a man chase after a woman and he’s not that cute,” has been busted by his potential lady love. Long story short, the woman said she only wanted … Continue reading

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When a man chases after a woman… but he’s not THAT cute

A man in serious like/love, who is ardently pursuing a woman, is a man on fire. My friend, who is pursuing my female best friend, is such a man. Since she lives in another country, when she came to visit, … Continue reading

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Bottlefeeding at almost 23 months

My baby is exclusively breastfed ever since she was born. Despite me overstocking various brands of milk bottles, daughter refused to drink from the bottle. I had to sell all our surplus bottles just because she refused to drink if … Continue reading

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When husband calls

My husband calls me.  He says he is hungry. I look at my desk. Actually there’s still a lot to do.  I find it a little bit unfair has the free time to roam around the mall while I manage the … Continue reading

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My Yaya’s Key Performance Indicators

My baby has a yaya (nanny) who’s already been with us for a year. Now, I’ve never really been too sensitive regarding dust or dirt, which is why I’m not too upset when she doesn’t really clean our living room. … Continue reading

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When Your Baby is a Picky Eater

Karma really is a b*tch… Last year, people were asking for advice on what to do when their baby is a picky eater. My baby, who was super fat at that time, did NOT have this problem. Just by exclusively … Continue reading

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Will you compromise just a little bit if you’re not a spring chicken no more?

When I was dating my now-husband at 32 years old, my future father-in-law chided me, “But you’re not a spring chicken anymore!” I wasn’t insulted as much as I was amused. In the end, I had the last laugh. I … Continue reading

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Top 10 Tips in Traveling to Siem Reap/Angkor Wat

We were at Siem Reap last weekend for my birthday. Here are some takeaways from our trip: 1. The flight and temple tickets were expensive. The rest were not. We booked a direct flight from Manila to Siem Reap via … Continue reading

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Language Miscommunication

I asked why the stir fried beef noodles my family took home last night had no beef.  We were in Siem Reap for a family vacation. I stayed at home to be with my sleeping toddler. They laughed. “Your husband … Continue reading

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What did I learn from Touring the Slums (Part 2)?

Continuation…. 7. It’s tough to be educated in Baseco. There are two schools closely located in Baseco. The average teacher to student ratio is 1:75. When I was a child, the average is 1:45. The big problem is not the … Continue reading

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Slum Living in Baseco Manila

We joined the Smokey Tours yesterday and visited the Baseco Slums in Tondo, Manila. The tours itself only cost Php 950.00 per person and includes a local tour guide and the transportation to/fro Carriedo and Baseco. Details and inclusions of … Continue reading

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What to do when you encounter a crazy man who’s out to get you?

We went to a children’s party today.  During one of the games, my husband who was babysitting (yaya was in day-off) sat our 2-year old toddler in one of the seats previously occupied by another kid when she stood up.  … Continue reading

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A Shocking Discovery

I was browsing through my husband’s phone yesterday since my phone battery already died. Since we were traveling to Angkor Wat with family soon, I was checking out activities I can add to our itinerary. Given our destination, I wanted … Continue reading

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A Father’s Love

My uncle is a single parent with an adult daughter. He was separated from his wife years ago, and has resorted to maintaining a slew of long-term girlfriends. The current girlfriend has been in his life for a decade already. … Continue reading

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Quitting While You’re Ahead

Our store in Robinsons Galleria was the branch that started it all.  It was the first branch we signed the contract on after my in-laws gave us the company to manage. We refurbished a brand new look and feel for … Continue reading

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The Two Week Employee

We hired a Designer two weeks ago.  He was in his 30s, worked for a food packing company, and could seem to do the job. He showed us his impressive portfolio and I liked how his designs seem professionally done … Continue reading

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When your husband buys an expensive tub of ice cream…

My husband wanted to buy a php381 Ben & Jerry’s ice cream tub of Cherry Garcia yesterday at Rustan’s.  Php 381 isn’t cheap. It’s almost the daily minimum wage of a waiter in the Philippines.  I don’t think that an … Continue reading

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How to Fight With Your Husband

If you’re with someone, it’s inevitable that you will one day fight with them. I personally have fought with my husband in our three years of marriage. The biggest was during our first few months of marriage when I had … Continue reading

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Small Biz Chronicles: My Stupid USD 1,200 Mistake

Fortunes are lost because of stupid 5-second mistakes. I lost USD 1,200 (or Php 60,000+) over the weekend because of a stupid one. I ordered a few boxes of goods for shipping to Manila. Usually, the boxes are heavy and … Continue reading

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Question: Should I marry someone even though I feel there might be somebody better out there for me?

I dated a guy who was great on paper for 2.5 years. He was smart, had a great job, was very responsible, and said he will love and take care of me for the rest of his life.He was also … Continue reading

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Whoever said being a boss means bossing people around is LYING

My husband’s friend quit his cushy job to start his own business.  Apparently, many believe that if you want to be a millionaire and be able to order people around, you need to have your own business.  I don’t think … Continue reading

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Inertia stops you from succeeding

Three years ago, when husband and I got married, my in-laws gifted us with a small, fledging retail business. “This will be your bread and butter,” they said. I looked at the numbers and quickly became concerned. Rent was high … Continue reading

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Updates: A Cranky Sunday

The entire household has the cold. Yaya was patient zero. Then came baby girl. Hubby got struck yesterday. And I’ve been experiencing mild sore throat today.  Baby girl can’t go to school due to the cold. When she sneezes, she … Continue reading

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Interview Chronicles: Top 5 Red Flags when Interviewing

I’ve interviewed thousands of people since our business is in retail and we have been expanding.  When I interview, there’s a few red flags I look out for. The biggest bombs come after the question, “Why did you leave your … Continue reading

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To the best band there is… I’m so sorry and I cry with you…

My husband shook me awake last night, “Linkin Park is dead.” “What do you mean it’s dead?” I groggily asked. Mind you, I was already half asleep by then.  He showed me the article, “Chester Bennington is dead due to … Continue reading

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“Your Child is ‘Matigas ng Ulo’ (Hardheaded)”

My daughter’s teacher has been complaining about our 19-month old child. She said that our kid is strong-willed and hard headed. The teacher also said that she has a tendency to hurt herself when she is frustrated. According to the … Continue reading

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Interview Chronicles: This must be one of the most unfortunate women in the world…

…So who really died? 😭😭😭

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I’m happy I had kids late

There’s a lot of young mothers in Manila. Many of them already have one child as teenagers, often due to callous attitudes towards contraceptive and the ignorant belief that that getting pregnant will not happen to them.  http://www.bbc.com/news/av/embed/p053y66t/40060748 I got … Continue reading

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How can you work if you are hungry?

I had a staff member start working for us last week.  According to her, she was living with her aunt in Caloocan, and the aunt was forcing her to find work. “I only have php 5.00 in my pocket,” she … Continue reading

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Review: Bijin Nabe Hotpot in S Maison Mall

We were at Conrad Hotel’s S Maison Mall for dinner last night because of the Toy Convention, and had the opportunity to try two of their restaurants: Bijin Nabe by Tsukada Nojo Hotpot Restaurant and Tsujiri Macha for desert. There … Continue reading

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No means no

My daughter is 18 months old.  And for an 18-month old, she has a good memory.  Just imagine, two months ago, we brought her to Kidzoona Robinsons Galleria.  Today, as we go to Galleria, she holds my hand and tugs … Continue reading

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HR Mode On

Since my HR assistant left, I’ve been doing a lot of interviewing and orientation. My heart breaks whenever I see another single mother who’s been beaten or cheated on by her ex boyfriend, and cannot seem to get her sh*t … Continue reading

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Late Night Discovery

Some good and bad news: Bad news: I’m not yet pregnant. Even though so many people are chasing me for a second kid.  Good news: I just got my period last night! Wohoo!  How can that be good news? Well, … Continue reading

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Lesson of the Day: Engagement

I read an interesting article by Business Insider, “My 11-year-old son auditioned at Juilliard, and we both learned a lot about how top performers practice.” As I read the article, I can’t help but ask, “How engaged are we really … Continue reading

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There’s been a lot of movement in the office…

…so apologies for not updating as often as I should. Just this week for example, I’ve let go of two people. One for extreme negligence, habitual absenteeism and tardiness and complete disregard for work, while the other is because she … Continue reading

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The Lord answers prayers

I have a bit of issues in the office, and given that everything is happening at the same time, it’s been a very stressful time for me.  Two of my staff share the responsibility of monitoring our inventory. One is … Continue reading

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Tag Along Baby

My husband is fixing the zamboni machine at an ice skating rink in an SM mall.  We bring along our daughter with us. We picked her up from home and bring her along with us. At present, she is just … Continue reading

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Don’t borrow money. Just cut back.

For many Filipinos, it is easier to borrow money when times get tough. And to return the money when we already have money.  The problem is, it’s not easy to borrow money. If you have a habit of borrowing money, … Continue reading

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Why do we only have one child? 

I didn’t believe my college friend when he warned me that the second kid was the hardest to make.  When he told me that, I was newly married and not even pregnant. How could sexy time even be a problem? … Continue reading

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Restaurant Review: L’Entrecote at Burgos Circle

Today is Mother’s Day! So in lieu of my second year of motherhood, my husband agreed to take me for a nice lunch at BGC. We ate at L’Entrecote in BGC, a restaurant I’ve been wanting to try months ago. … Continue reading

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The Plight of the Single Mothers

There are many single mothers at the place I work in. A lot of them had their first child as a teenager, and most of them in their 20s. Who are the fathers? Well, half of them did not take responsibility, leaving … Continue reading

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Today is one of those challenging days. 

One of the biggest issue surrounding a worker in Manila is that it’s very difficult for them to keep their professional and personal life separate.  Especially as women, we have accepted our fates as responsible breadwinners, burdened mothers, martyred wives … Continue reading

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Why I love the Philippine mall culture!

Whenever I have foreign guests flying into town, I book them in a half-day cultural tour in Intramuros and ask them to visit our big malls. “Come to SM Megamall!” I’d exclaim as I book them at the BSA Towers. … Continue reading

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Parenting = Being the Bad Guy 

Yesterday, we had to admit my daughter into the hospital. She’s had on and off fever for three days straight, and her white blood cells are a high 38,000 count. The average count for white blood cells for babies her … Continue reading

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Wives: We are the Problem!

I am a part of a popular mommy group. Many of them complain about their husbands. A few complain of their husband’s addiction to video games. “I am exhausted and take care of the baby 24/7, while his nose is … Continue reading

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Money Can’t Buy Class

The Met Gala is one of the biggest fashion events of the year. Celebrities and attendees have a chance to WOW everyone with their interpretation of a theme — this year it was Rei Kawakubo/Comme des Garçons — and show off their … Continue reading

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What are the steps for a successful startup?

It’s all about execution. No matter how great your ideas are, if you do not execute your idea, you won’t become successful. Case in point, we have a small accessory retail business. Currently we have 20 stores in major malls … Continue reading

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My Husband’s Walking the Baby

It’s 2:30am and my husband is walking our 16-month old baby. Baby slept a tad bit early and woke up at 1:30am, fresh from her “nap” and pushing for some action. So husband took the bullet and is around the … Continue reading

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Do What You Love and You’ll Never Work a Day in Your Life

It’s a popular adage that you need to do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life. And if you cannot find what you love, don’t settle. Keep on looking for it until you find it. To … Continue reading

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When your husband annoys you during a Coldplay concert

Years before, I told myself that if Coldplay was holding a concert in the same country, I would definitely watch it. Apparently, they’re one of the few bands that put on a great show and authentically sing in their concerts. So … Continue reading

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Does your staff have Tom-K?

  My father-in-law has a rule that he will hire AND keep people who has TOM-K. After 25 years in the business, I think he knows what he’s talking about. Now, what does Tom-K mean? T – Tapat (Integrity) O … Continue reading

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Planning a Wedding? Here’s a Super Helpful Must Have List for You!

I just thought of starting a wedding planning series to commemorate my brother’s wedding. So lucky for all the readers who are planning a wedding soon! If you are a woman, congratulations for getting the man of your dreams to propose! … Continue reading

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Mien Bao (Bread) huo Ai (Love)?

In Taiwan, there’s a saying, “面包或爱.” This literally mean, “bread or money.” This implied that if we’re lucky, we can have both. But if we’re not, we may have to choose between marrying for love or money. By ourselves, we are complete … Continue reading

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A Sister’s Advice to a Brother on his Wedding Day

Dear Brother, Welcome to the married club! Finally, you’ve decided to get married! And if you wonder why I’ve been less opinionated as of late, know I do so because I wanted you to make the most important decision in … Continue reading

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Think about your guests when planning your wedding

A wedding is a happy ceremony celebrated between two families, as an event to cement one’s love for each other. Truth be told, a successful wedding is one where two people marry the persons of their dreams. No matter how much … Continue reading

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To save your marriage, love your MIL… even if it kills you

My staff has recently married after a short engagement. When I asked her about her marriage, she commented that she feels embarrassed when her mother-in-law (MIL) does her laundry. Her MIL is a housewife and used to do her husband’s laundry when he … Continue reading

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Mommy Review: Gymboree Magnolia

Like many mothers, I have enrolled my baby on both Gymboree and Kindermusik. For Kindermusik, my baby has finished a semester and one unit in two of their branches. For Gymboree, we have only availed of their Php 600 trial … Continue reading

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Make the Right Decisions Before You Get Married

It’s a week before my brother’s wedding, and his greatest problem yesterday was what type of Tempur bed to purchase. Apparently, there’s three types of Tempur Beds — hard, soft, and softest. My husband and I have the standard Tempur bed … Continue reading

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Dad’s Words of Wisdom: Being Hands on in Business

When we got married, my husband’s father gave us a very small business to manage. It was supposed to be our “bread and butter.” When he gave us the business, it wasn’t cashflow steady. It was not profitable and we were running at … Continue reading

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Second Chances

A friend of mine told me that his son was sullen and depressed following a failed marriage. He married young at 21 years old, at a time his now wife was 3 months pregnant, much to the chagrin of everybody. … Continue reading

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My List of Baby Essentials – Here’s my list from my own experience. What’s yours?

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How to Make Your Wife Happy

When my baby was born, I was caught up with babywearing, and hoarded carriers. My mom bought me an Ergobaby 360 before our daughter was born, and since it was too hot and bulky, we bought the Baby K’Tan for … Continue reading

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The Cookie Test

My husband tells me that he comes from a family that doesn’t say “Thank you” a lot. He chides my family for being overly polite and for saying thank you too often that it almost comes out as fake and meaningless. … Continue reading

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A Reason for Everything

I believe that there is a reason for everything. When things don’t go our way, there’s usually a hidden plan behind it. I remembered when I was in Taiwan, I applied for a marketing position in DeBeers, one of the world’s … Continue reading

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My Thoughts on Early Learning

I’m a big fan of early learning for my child. I began hoarding books when she was born, scouring pre-loved book depositories for bargains and ordering from Amazon.com the rest. Here’s one site where I get my second hand children’s books in … Continue reading

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When Someone Betrays Your Trust

I found out two months ago that my assistant has been stealing money from the company. She’s been doing it since February 2016, and has gradually started siphoning money from the company account to her personal bank account. When I … Continue reading

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Do You Have a Prenup?

My brother is marrying his girlfriend next month. While other men experience the 7-year itch, brother has chosen to forget the itch and actually put a ring on it. And when two families get together, there are legalities both sides … Continue reading

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When my kid gets older, I’d ask to her to work as a sales staff…

A sales staff in Manila earns minimum wage. Currently, the price is Php 491/day (USD 10.00), and the number goes up a little every year. Its a thankless job — standing up for 8 hours straight with 3 breaks (one … Continue reading

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Health is Wealth

I have a tummy ache ever since this morning. It must have been the McDonald’s Spaghetti I ate for my midnight snack last night. To make it worse, I can’t drink any medicine since I’m breastfeeding. So while my butt … Continue reading

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How does it feel to donate 3000 oz. of breast milk in 10 months?

My daughter is an exclusively breastfed baby. Ever since she was born, she has received nourishment straight from the boob. Not for the lack of trying, we’ve tried to get her to take milk from the bottle, but she has stubbornly … Continue reading

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The Alleged Evils of Peppa Pig and the Importance of Censoring your Children’s Shows

Peppa Pig burst into existence last May 2004. Peppa spoke in a British English accent and the show revolves around her adventures with her family and friends. But a lot of psychologists warn of the dangers of watching Peppa Pig without … Continue reading

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Liar Liar Pants on Fire

The 8th Commandment commands, “Thou shalt not lie.”   And yet, we continue to do so on a DAILY basis. I am aghast on how easily and naturally people lie. They tell white lies to “avoid hurting your feelings.” They commit crimes of … Continue reading

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Work: You Snooze, You Lose

Our office needs a new accounting clerk so I’ve been holding interviews this week. To be honest, it’s not easy to find good, capable, and willing employees nowadays. Many of the applications I received were from under-qualified candidates or from applicants … Continue reading

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The Crime of Omission

What does the word, “Omission” mean? o·mis·sion əˈmiSH(ə)n,ōˈmiSH(ə)n/ 1. Someone or something that has been left out or excluded. “there are glaring omissions in the report” 2. The action of excluding or leaving out someone or something. “the omission of recent … Continue reading

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Why I Love Open Work Spaces

My business has an open-office plan. When you walk through a lean corridor, you see a slew of tables facing each other. Staff members work facing each other, and when people bark orders at each other, all they have to … Continue reading

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The Chinese Way of Teaching the Staff

I’ve previously shared my experience with a negligent staff in my blog. Aside from the earlier listed offenses, she misplaced an important document, an aircon and ducting certification in one of our branches, which is crucial in getting back my construction … Continue reading

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I don’t mind that my baby is not “beautiful”

“(Our baby’s name) is not pretty, but at least she is kiao (smart),” my mother-in-law said. She says this often to anyone who will listen to her. While many mothers may feel scandalous for their own babies are called ugly or not … Continue reading

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The Price of Negligence

I have a 30+-year old assistant who has been with me for two Christmases. She is a single mother to a young boy, and was left by her boyfriend of 7-years who impregnated and soon married their ugly yet flirty neighbor. When … Continue reading

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Parenting a Strong-Willed Daughter

My daughter had a very public meltdown in a Christmas bazaar yesterday. She sucked her breath for a long time, to the point that her lips started turning purple, and then cried hard as loud as she could. To be honest, … Continue reading

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Top 10 Favorite Philippine-Based Sites For Children’s Christmas Gifts

Okay, I admit it. I’m a shopaholic. I love browsing through Zalora.com and Lazada.com, and since having a baby, I’m an active member of a handful of mommy blogs and shopping sites. Consequently, I discover various shopping sites catered to price-conscious mommies … Continue reading

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Crossing the Line

Crossing the Line Today, I’d have a sales staff go home mid-day because she didn’t feel like going to work. She has a headache, and decided to just go home despite the store having no reliever for the day. The … Continue reading

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Being an Entrepreneur is NOT Fun

I interview a lot of job candidates who knock on my door after a failed business. Just yesterday, I interviewed an area supervisor wannabe who said she sold off her chicken feeds and dog food business because it was “too stressful.” … Continue reading

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The Grass is Greener from the other Side?

My friend lives in Corinthian Gardens, one of the most expensive addresses in Manila. And owns a heated pool. His household expenses go above Php 100,000 (or USD 2,000) per month, which for me is a bit preposterous given that the … Continue reading

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Talk is Cheap.

One of the most frustrating things I experience is being lied to. People lie to me everyday. Now when I say the word “lie,” I mean this in the strictest sense. A lie is a false statement. There is a deliberate intent to … Continue reading

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My kid is starting school next month

  A recent study reveals that a child’s intelligence is inherited from the mother. That means, if the mother is smart, usually the kid is also. And while I don’t believe in it fully — there’s so much that genetics can do — … Continue reading

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Why you should NOT come back to Manila?

Someone asked me in my blog what I regret the most coming back to Manila. To be honest, I’m pretty lucky. I got to spend one year with my father before he passed away from liver cancer, met a reformed troublemaker … Continue reading

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August was a bad month for us…

My friend Carol posted the following on her Facebook page: TROUBLE BY WARREN WIERSBE Read Psalm 102:1-11 One day I phoned a friend of mine who is in the ministry and asked, “How’s it going?” His quiet reply was, “Well, … Continue reading

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Yaya Left Us…

The good thing about raising in the Philippines is you can hire a stay-in babysitter who will take care of your children while you are at work. We call them Yayas. In Manila, there are yayas for newborn babies, and yayas … Continue reading

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Give and Take

There has been a lot of giving and taking after I got married. Husband is out now with wannabe entrepreneur good friend as they tinker with toys that will hopefully make them millions. I’m at home blogging, waiting for him … Continue reading

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I have never been Ms. Popular

I am your typical firstborn: arrogant, bossy and a know-it-all.  As the only child, I felt that the world revolved around me. That didn’t last long. When my sibling was born, I felt he was a pest and only existed … Continue reading

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I’ve become one of those moms…

Welcome to my worst nightmare. I have become one of those moms who… …Post constant and annoying updates about their offspring.  It has come to this: Almost all of my status updates on Facebook and Instagram are about my daughter.  … Continue reading

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My Pregnancy Journey

My mother-in-law asked me to not get pregnant until after our USA trip in November 2014. “We’re going to Universal Studios (in Florida),” she advised, “It would be a pity not to get on many of the rides just because you’re pregnant.” … Continue reading

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Don’t Get Pregnant When You’re Not Yet Ready

Since I’m in the topic of motherhood, I’d like to talk about the rampancy of unwed single mothers in the Philippines. To place it in context, I work in a business that hires a lot of women. Since our products cater … Continue reading

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One of the Most Tiring Things about Being a Mother…

…is to be the recipient of so many “helpful” advice. I kid you not. Ever since I became a mother, I had to wrap my head around well-meaning advice givers who seem to know better how to raise my child. One … Continue reading

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The Problem with Being a Former Expat in the Philippines

I’ve lived overseas for almost 10 years before coming back home. There was a time I moved from Hong Kong to London, from London to Hong Kong then back to the Philippines in a span of four months, with luggage … Continue reading

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