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About Bonita

I'm a forgetful person. But I think a lot. Every day, a lot of thoughts enter my head. That's why this blog came to be: first, to keep my memories alive through the years, and two, to actually see how I and my thoughts have changed. Please note that I seldom draft or edit my posts. Sometimes, if I'm not careful, I offend some of you, my readers. And while I apologize for making you feel uncomfortable, I am not sorry for being honest or for making well-intentioned mistakes. I will however be the first to admit if I change my mind. Hence, do read and proceed with caution. My life is as colorful and as boring as you make it. I complain many days, but offer some encouragement in others. Life is fluid, it changes. So keep the positives and throw away the negatives, and I do hope that at the end of the day, you will enjoy reading the blog and leaving comments here and there if my posts touches you. Happy reading!

To save your marriage, love your MIL… even if it kills you

My staff has recently married after a short engagement. When I asked her about her marriage, she commented that she feels embarrassed when her mother-in-law (MIL) does her laundry. Her MIL is a housewife and used to do her husband’s laundry when he … Continue reading

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Mommy Review: Gymboree Magnolia

Like many mothers, I have enrolled my baby on both Gymboree and Kindermusik. For Kindermusik, my baby has finished a semester and one unit in two of their branches. For Gymboree, we have only availed of their Php 600 trial … Continue reading

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Make the Right Decisions Before You Get Married

It’s a week before my brother’s wedding, and his greatest problem yesterday was what type of Tempur bed to purchase. Apparently, there’s three types of Tempur Beds — hard, soft, and softest. My husband and I have the standard Tempur bed … Continue reading

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Dad’s Words of Wisdom: Being Hands on in Business

When we got married, my husband’s father gave us a very small business to manage. It was supposed to be our “bread and butter.” When he gave us the business, it wasn’t cashflow steady. It was not profitable and we were running at … Continue reading

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Second Chances

A friend of mine told me that his son was sullen and depressed following a failed marriage. He married young at 21 years old, at a time his now wife was 3 months pregnant, much to the chagrin of everybody. … Continue reading

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My List of Baby Essentials – Here’s my list from my own experience. What’s yours?

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How to Make Your Wife Happy

When my baby was born, I was caught up with babywearing, and hoarded carriers. My mom bought me an Ergobaby 360 before our daughter was born, and since it was too hot and bulky, we bought the Baby K’Tan for … Continue reading

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The Cookie Test

My husband tells me that he comes from a family that doesn’t say “Thank you” a lot. He chides my family for being overly polite and for saying thank you too often that it almost comes out as fake and meaningless. … Continue reading

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A Reason for Everything

I believe that there is a reason for everything. When things don’t go our way, there’s usually a hidden plan behind it. I remembered when I was in Taiwan, I applied for a marketing position in DeBeers, one of the world’s … Continue reading

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My Thoughts on Early Learning

I’m a big fan of early learning for my child. I began hoarding books when she was born, scouring pre-loved book depositories for bargains and ordering from Amazon.com the rest. Here’s one site where I get my second hand children’s books in … Continue reading

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When Someone Betrays Your Trust

I found out two months ago that my assistant has been stealing money from the company. She’s been doing it since February 2016, and has gradually started siphoning money from the company account to her personal bank account. When I … Continue reading

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Do You Have a Prenup?

My brother is marrying his girlfriend next month. While other men experience the 7-year itch, brother has chosen to forget the itch and actually put a ring on it. And when two families get together, there are legalities both sides … Continue reading

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When my kid gets older, I’d ask to her to work as a sales staff…

A sales staff in Manila earns minimum wage. Currently, the price is Php 491/day (USD 10.00), and the number goes up a little every year. Its a thankless job — standing up for 8 hours straight with 3 breaks (one … Continue reading

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Health is Wealth

I have a tummy ache ever since this morning. It must have been the McDonald’s Spaghetti I ate for my midnight snack last night. To make it worse, I can’t drink any medicine since I’m breastfeeding. So while my butt … Continue reading

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How does it feel to donate 3000 oz. of breast milk in 10 months?

My daughter is an exclusively breastfed baby. Ever since she was born, she has received nourishment straight from the boob. Not for the lack of trying, we’ve tried to get her to take milk from the bottle, but she has stubbornly … Continue reading

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The Alleged Evils of Peppa Pig and the Importance of Censoring your Children’s Shows

Peppa Pig burst into existence last May 2004. Peppa spoke in a British English accent and the show revolves around her adventures with her family and friends. But a lot of psychologists warn of the dangers of watching Peppa Pig without … Continue reading

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Liar Liar Pants on Fire

The 8th Commandment commands, “Thou shalt not lie.”   And yet, we continue to do so on a DAILY basis. I am aghast on how easily and naturally people lie. They tell white lies to “avoid hurting your feelings.” They commit crimes of … Continue reading

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Work: You Snooze, You Lose

Our office needs a new accounting clerk so I’ve been holding interviews this week. To be honest, it’s not easy to find good, capable, and willing employees nowadays. Many of the applications I received were from under-qualified candidates or from applicants … Continue reading

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The Crime of Omission

What does the word, “Omission” mean? o·mis·sion əˈmiSH(ə)n,ōˈmiSH(ə)n/ 1. Someone or something that has been left out or excluded. “there are glaring omissions in the report” 2. The action of excluding or leaving out someone or something. “the omission of recent … Continue reading

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Why I Love Open Work Spaces

My business has an open-office plan. When you walk through a lean corridor, you see a slew of tables facing each other. Staff members work facing each other, and when people bark orders at each other, all they have to … Continue reading

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The Chinese Way of Teaching the Staff

I’ve previously shared my experience with a negligent staff in my blog. Aside from the earlier listed offenses, she misplaced an important document, an aircon and ducting certification in one of our branches, which is crucial in getting back my construction … Continue reading

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I don’t mind that my baby is not “beautiful”

“(Our baby’s name) is not pretty, but at least she is kiao (smart),” my mother-in-law said. She says this often to anyone who will listen to her. While many mothers may feel scandalous for their own babies are called ugly or not … Continue reading

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The Price of Negligence

I have a 30+-year old assistant who has been with me for two Christmases. She is a single mother to a young boy, and was left by her boyfriend of 7-years who impregnated and soon married their ugly yet flirty neighbor. When … Continue reading

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Parenting a Strong-Willed Daughter

My daughter had a very public meltdown in a Christmas bazaar yesterday. She sucked her breath for a long time, to the point that her lips started turning purple, and then cried hard as loud as she could. To be honest, … Continue reading

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Top 10 Favorite Philippine-Based Sites For Children’s Christmas Gifts

Okay, I admit it. I’m a shopaholic. I love browsing through Zalora.com and Lazada.com, and since having a baby, I’m an active member of a handful of mommy blogs and shopping sites. Consequently, I discover various shopping sites catered to price-conscious mommies … Continue reading

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Crossing the Line

Crossing the Line Today, I’d have a sales staff go home mid-day because she didn’t feel like going to work. She has a headache, and decided to just go home despite the store having no reliever for the day. The … Continue reading

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Being an Entrepreneur is NOT Fun

I interview a lot of job candidates who knock on my door after a failed business. Just yesterday, I interviewed an area supervisor wannabe who said she sold off her chicken feeds and dog food business because it was “too stressful.” … Continue reading

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The Grass is Greener from the other Side?

My friend lives in Corinthian Gardens, one of the most expensive addresses in Manila. And owns a heated pool. His household expenses go above Php 100,000 (or USD 2,000) per month, which for me is a bit preposterous given that the … Continue reading

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Talk is Cheap.

One of the most frustrating things I experience is being lied to. People lie to me everyday. Now when I say the word “lie,” I mean this in the strictest sense. A lie is a false statement. There is a deliberate intent to … Continue reading

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My kid is starting school next month

  A recent study reveals that a child’s intelligence is inherited from the mother. That means, if the mother is smart, usually the kid is also. And while I don’t believe in it fully — there’s so much that genetics can do — … Continue reading

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Why you should NOT come back to Manila?

Someone asked me in my blog what I regret the most coming back to Manila. To be honest, I’m pretty lucky. I got to spend one year with my father before he passed away from liver cancer, met a reformed troublemaker … Continue reading

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August was a bad month for us…

My friend Carol posted the following on her Facebook page: TROUBLE BY WARREN WIERSBE Read Psalm 102:1-11 One day I phoned a friend of mine who is in the ministry and asked, “How’s it going?” His quiet reply was, “Well, … Continue reading

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Yaya Left Us…

The good thing about raising in the Philippines is you can hire a stay-in babysitter who will take care of your children while you are at work. We call them Yayas. In Manila, there are yayas for newborn babies, and yayas … Continue reading

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Give and Take

There has been a lot of giving and taking after I got married. Husband is out now with wannabe entrepreneur good friend as they tinker with toys that will hopefully make them millions. I’m at home blogging, waiting for him … Continue reading

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I have never been Ms. Popular

I am your typical firstborn: arrogant, bossy and a know-it-all.  As the only child, I felt that the world revolved around me. That didn’t last long. When my sibling was born, I felt he was a pest and only existed … Continue reading

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I’ve become one of those moms…

Welcome to my worst nightmare. I have become one of those moms who… …Post constant and annoying updates about their offspring.  It has come to this: Almost all of my status updates on Facebook and Instagram are about my daughter.  … Continue reading

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My Pregnancy Journey

My mother-in-law asked me to not get pregnant until after our USA trip in November 2014. “We’re going to Universal Studios (in Florida),” she advised, “It would be a pity not to get on many of the rides just because you’re pregnant.” … Continue reading

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Don’t Get Pregnant When You’re Not Yet Ready

Since I’m in the topic of motherhood, I’d like to talk about the rampancy of unwed single mothers in the Philippines. To place it in context, I work in a business that hires a lot of women. Since our products cater … Continue reading

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One of the Most Tiring Things about Being a Mother…

…is to be the recipient of so many “helpful” advice. I kid you not. Ever since I became a mother, I had to wrap my head around well-meaning advice givers who seem to know better how to raise my child. One … Continue reading

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The Problem with Being a Former Expat in the Philippines

I’ve lived overseas for almost 10 years before coming back home. There was a time I moved from Hong Kong to London, from London to Hong Kong then back to the Philippines in a span of four months, with luggage … Continue reading

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How Motherhood Changed Me…

I remember going back from the hospital after giving birth to our baby girl. It was such an overwhelming moment. You feel awash with a sense of responsibility. That it’s no longer about you anymore. That it’s now about HER. To be … Continue reading

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All Failed Relationships Lead You to the Right One

The first guy I dated worked as a waiter, became a restaurant cook and ended up to be a holistic masseuse in Japan. He was a high school graduate who felt he was inferior against college graduates because they have a degree and … Continue reading

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How do you know you’ve found the Right One?

Answer: “You just know.” And before you strangle me for giving you a typical B.S. answer, let me implore you to think more about how deep that answer is. First, majority of people who’ve found The One say it, and say it … Continue reading

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Separation Anxiety

I think God made babies so cute and so helpless, so you have no choice but to take care of them. My baby is now almost 7 months old, and is entering her separation anxiety stage. According to BabyCentre, separation anxiety is a … Continue reading

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When you’re pissed and you know it, write a post

Someone set an appointment for which I had to go to Makati for. Anyone who understands the traffic condition in Manila knows that to get anywhere, you have to allocate at least two hours of travel time. Consequently, I had … Continue reading

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Updates: I am NOT HIV Positive

Sorry, I had to place it as a title to get the facts correct. Husband and I took the test again, and the tests came out NEGATIVE. Basis was a home-test which we ordered from the USA. We again subjected ourselves to … Continue reading

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Being HIV Reactive

I have been debating whether I should share this to all of you. A few weeks ago, my OB asked me to take a few prenatal tests to determine the baby’s general health. Part of it was the usual blood sugar, urinary … Continue reading

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Baby Stuff: Stuff I swear by and can’t live without (From Sister-in-Law)

Update: I’m already on my 23rd week and entering my sixth month. Whereas my jeans and shorts still fit me two weeks ago, they now don’t. I officially start looking pregnant and from what I’ve heard, I will look even … Continue reading

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When God gives you lemons, make lemonade!

Poor Little Pea. 😦 The Lord has put a lot of trials in front of us the last week. It has been stressful for us. Fortunately, all these trials are work-related. In one week alone, we had to deal with four different malls. … Continue reading

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Getting Married > Being Happy

My friend asked me why it’s so hard to find a lasting relationship. She is already 38 years old, and have just broken up with her Korean-American boyfriend of 9 months. They have had a long distance relationship. Her ultimate dream … Continue reading

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Updates: Sick but Alive

It is a pain to be pregnant and be sick. You are always extra careful on the type of medications you can consume. For example, for headaches, I cannot take Advil, and must go to the drugstore and buy Tylenol … Continue reading

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Who said women were practical?

“Hon, I want to buy a cashmere scarf,” I cooed to my husband after joining my friend RBF to a high-class party. “Okay, how much is the scarf?” asked husband. “Oh, it’s cheap,” I said. “It used to be Php … Continue reading

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I’m Pregnant!

After suffering a miscarriage last January, I am happy to announce that I am once again pregnant. We are keeping it a secret yet from our folks because we don’t want to share the happy news, and again suffer another disappointing … Continue reading

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Date Nights

“I haven’t gotten laid for days!” I grumbled to my husband as we got ready for another new day. “But we were sick… and exhausted!” he defended himself. “You were zonked out the other day because you were so tired!” “I still need … Continue reading

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What Type of Girl Finds Boyfriends Easily

I’ve noticed that there are some women who will simply end up with a man. While there are some with prolonged dry spells and are single even in their late 30s. I noticed one characteristic that many women who actually have boyfriends … Continue reading

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Couple Envy

There is what you call, “Business envy.” Business envy is when you wish you are in another business because you are envious of the profits and success that business entails. I have a little bit what you call, “Couple envy.” … Continue reading

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Top 5 Reasons Why Couples Divorce Very Quickly

It is every girl’s dream to be married. From the time they were young, they dream of wearing the perfect dress, walking down the aisle to a song they’ve picked from high school, looking to the crying eyes of her Prince Charming. … Continue reading

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To Share: Useful Video Links of Taiwan Tour

If you are not joining a guided tour, here are a few videos you can watch beforehand about Taiwan for your reference! All these are based from the six-day itinerary I wrote the last time at post: To Share: A Real-Life, Jump-Packed 6-Day … Continue reading

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To Share: A Real-Life, Jump-Packed 6-Day Taipei – Hualien – Jiufen – Yehliu – Taipei Itinerary

My family is planning a 6-day trip to Taiwan and they’ve asked me to prepare a customized schedule for them. Their tour agency suggested that they visit Sun Moon Lake and Alishan but I personally feel there’s more than enough to see just in Taipei alone. If … Continue reading

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How to Keep Sane — Prioritize Only 3 Things!

“Why does it seem as if time flies?” I asked my husband during lunch today. “I really wish that there are more than 24 hours in a day.” After I got married, I found myself short on time. But I am always … Continue reading

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The 5 Qualities I Look for in an Employee

The key to a good business is finding the right people. When you have the right people in your team, you can rest easier knowing that your business is in good hands. That’s the advantage of my parents-in-law’s 20-year business: They … Continue reading

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What is Wrong with Working for Someone Else?

Dear Aspiring Entrepreneur, I’ve always found you to be very admirable. For one, you are very optimistic. Being optimistic despite the odds is a very good trait. It shows you have resilience, and have the ability to keep on smiling … Continue reading

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Stalkerish Much?

Unlike many women, I like accompanying my husband everywhere he goes. My mom used to go with my father everywhere so history repeats itself. A friend used to tell me that the one time that my father went to Europe without … Continue reading

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How Important is Sexual Compatibility? (Warning: NSFW)

It’s Sunday, and I’m in a good mood. Plus the Fifty Shades of Grey movie is coming out this week. So I will honestly answer what many people want to ask but are afraid to. “How important is sexual compatibility in a relationship? … Continue reading

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Have you found your “Soul Equal?”

This has been reprinted from Debra Faith Warshaw’s article, “There is Something Better Than Finding a Soulmate“ I find this article quite accurate. With ex-boyfriend Trader, I was the more dominant partner. Frankly, I felt he was holding me down, and … Continue reading

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We are the Pussy Generation

Clint Eastwood called us “The Pussy Generation,” and I can’t help but to agree. Compared to the older generations, we work a lot less. We have more money and we have more things. And yet, we complain more. We complain about … Continue reading

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The Intricate Balance of Getting Along with Your Husband

I think marriage is about getting along with another person. Day in and day out, you’re pretty stuck with each other. And if you don’t get along well with each other, then life can really be hell. That’s why it’s really … Continue reading

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Only in the Philippines – The Texts You Get in the Morning

When you work in the Philippines, you’d never know what you’re going to get. Like yesterday, here is the text exchange between myself and an employee coming in on her first day: Employee (Text: 8:51am): “Hi Ma’m. Good morning. Ma’m, … Continue reading

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I Thought I Was Pregnant… And Then I Wasn’t

It was the perfect birthday gift. After having a nice romantic dinner at Bonifacio High Street, I gave my husband a little dark gray box with a nice bow… He looked at it and smiled, “So, we can now call our mommies … Continue reading

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What do you do when good people resign?

What do you do if two of your key people resign on the same week? For an office with only seven people, it can be disaster. Let me tell you, there is no worse feeling than getting a resignation letter … Continue reading

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“I’m sick.”

“I’m hungry,” my husband groaned last weekend while we were at SMX at the bridal show. “Uhhhhh… we’re still not yet done setting up,” I said. “But I’m hungry,” he moaned like a ravished child. I need something to eat. I was torn. While I don’t … Continue reading

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No Rest for the Weary Entrepreneur

I’ve learned a valuable lesson this week. If you are an entrepreneur, theoretically, there is no sleep and there is no rest. When we returned from a one-day vacation last June 2, husband and I were riding high from an awesome December … Continue reading

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Husband’s Guest Post — “My Wife Drives Me Nuts”

Does your mom, dad or sibling have a particular habit that just simply drives you nuts? Burping out loud, leaving the door open, cluttered mess… these sort of things? Now, take these irritations and multiply it by at least ten. … Continue reading

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Technology is EVIL

After over five months of marriage, Hubby and I remain happy and content in our togetherness. He still makes me coffee every morning and massages my tired feet every night. He helps clean the shower (I never seem to get … Continue reading

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My Husband Speaks — “Hello World!”

“I have something to tell you but don’t get mad,” my ex-girlfriend told me. “Because my ex-boyfriend went berserk when he found out about it.” “Unless you happen to be a professional drug lord kingpin or an axe murderer, I … Continue reading

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Happy Birthday to Me!

It’s that time of the year again where I celebrate yet another birthday. As I looked back on my blog posts, I realized that I haven’t been blogging as much as I should. That’s what happens when you get engaged … Continue reading

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Marriage is all about Compromise

Marriage is all about compromise. For me, it’s about getting my hot Nespresso coffee made fresh by my husband every morning. For him, it’s about me letting him get that extra 10 minutes of sleep in the morning. For me, it’s about … Continue reading

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Labor in the Philippines: You Get What You Pay For

I realized that you always get what you pay for. This month, my business is looking for a junior administrative officer. The minimum wage is Php 466/day or Php 12,200/month (that’s USD 285 for 26 working days).  I’m willing to pay … Continue reading

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Me: The Green Eyed Monster

“I’m sorry, but you’ve had a cancelled line before and Globe cannot process your application for new phone lines if you don’t pay your bill,” the friendly customer service personnel informed my husband. “Huh? What do you mean?” my husband … Continue reading

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Traveling again

Cebu Pacific is once again delayed. We don’t mind though. That’s the price you pay for saving a few bucks. So what’s our schedule now? After waking up at 5:30am, we are on our way to Hong Kong for a … Continue reading

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Just a Normal Day

8:45am – Wake up and take a shower. Makeup for 5 mins 9:30am – Arrive at work. 9:35am – 11:00am – Drink my Nespresso as my sales supervisors and I go through their yesterday. I advise them of strategies and … Continue reading

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Edric Mendoza — Many Women’s God’s Best

“Eeeeee! He’s on TV!” my husband shakes me as he sees Edric Mendoza on TV. If you are wondering what is causing my husband’s excitement, here is a photo of Edric Mendoza that I’ve gotten on the Internet: Cute, ey? Bespectacled, … Continue reading

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Does God answer prayer?

My husband and I are born-again Christians. In the evening, we try our best to have quiet time together, reading a few chapters in the Bible and reflecting on what they mean. Afterwards, we say a little prayer thanking the Lord … Continue reading

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“You’re Fired!”

The only thing I remember from Donald Trump’s Show The Apprentice is him telling aspiring candidates, “You’re fired!” He makes firing so easy. As a business owner and a female boss, I don’t feel as comfortable firing people as Mr. Trump. Whenever … Continue reading

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Disappointed with the Philippine Workforce

While I am lucky to have a few good men, I couldn’t help but observe how disappointing the Philippine workforce can be. There are just a lot of headaches that occur here that would probably not happen in Hong Kong and Taiwan. … Continue reading

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What would happen if I didn’t marry my husband

I was thinking about what my life would be if I did not marry my husband. If I married my first boyfriend, it would’ve been a loveless marriage.  It was a one-sided relationship which started wrongly — with Michan first … Continue reading

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It’s Not Easy Being a Girl

My mother tells me the story of her friend, who was so proud of her daughter. “Tess was so proud that her daughter graduated magna cum laude in a prestigious school in the Philippines,” she said. “She never had a problem … Continue reading

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6 Reasons Why Women Are Still Single

I have a lot of single girl friends. And they’re worried. They’re worried that they don’t have anyone special in their lives. They’re worried that they won’t find The One. They’re worried that they’ll be single forever. I have a lot of girl … Continue reading

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Is Entrepreneurship FOR YOU?

It requires at least a 20,000 circulation for Summit Media to continue publishing a magazine. One of their magazine, “Entrepreneur,” boasts of a 30,000 circulation, a 4x pass-on readership, and a total monthly readership of 150,000. While this may not be impressive to some, … Continue reading

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Juan Tamad

I am browsing through Jobstreet.com, the Philippines most popular online job hunting site. For the position of sales associate, I have already received 100 resumes and counting. Not bad for a job posting that only cost me USD 100. Here’s … Continue reading

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My Personal Experience with Nu Skin – The Company with an Ulterior Motive

My phone rang. It was an unknown number.  “Bonita here,” I greeted as I picked up the phone. “Hi Bonita, this is Patricia!”  Patricia had been my college classmate back at college. We worked on our senior year project together, doing … Continue reading

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Which one is which?

After a while, you realize stereotypes may exist for a reason. Just to juggle up your mind, who do you think owns these sinks? One is my husband’s and one is mine. Now which is which? 🙂

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Brain Dead

After a hard days work, I can’t help but plop to bed, laze around and play Candy Crush. I know it’s a time waster but after interviewing new people for sales positions, talking to manpower agencies and negotiating for mall … Continue reading

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When Old People Brag…

My father in law told us that he used to work 70-80 hours a week. With only seven days a week, that’s around 10-12 hours per day, EVERY DAY. As he wrote to us in an email: Every old timer Chinese … Continue reading

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Enjoying Corporate Overseas OR Come Back and Build Your Own Business in Manila (Extra: The Hard and Joys of Coming Back Home)

So many of you have wondered whether you should give up your nice cushy job abroad and come back to the Philippines to start your own business. Having done both — going corporate and being self-employed — I feel I’m in the … Continue reading

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Dear XXX — The first days of marriage

Dear XXX, How are you?! It’s true what you said before. After marriage, you’ll miss your parents (or in my case, my mom) a lot. I didn’t shed tears or try to run home to her, but there were times … Continue reading

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Buy One, Take One

My mom today SMS’d me to ask if I would be available to attend with her my uncle’s 94th birthday. If I was, she can pick me up at 6pm. I asked if my husband is included. She said, given … Continue reading

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Why Can’t You Have It All?

Marriage is tough. The first week of my marriage, I felt stuck. “This is for the rest of my life!!!” my mind screamed. As a Christian and married to a twice married man, I knew that divorce for us was … Continue reading

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Simple Joys of Marriage

There are sweet moments in marriage. Case in point, last night, husband was hungry and wanted to eat his favorite instant noodles. As I waited with him in the dining room as his instant noodles was just starting to heat … Continue reading

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Overheard in Santorini: what happens when an Indian woman walked into a shop…

An Indian girl goes in Santorini shop 1. “How much is this bag here?” She asked. The bag is made out of simple linen and says “I love Santorini.” “It is EUR 5, miss,” the shopkeeper said. “It’s on sale.” … Continue reading

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