About

About NamelessinTaipei:

It’s about the life of a Tsinay balikbayan after almost 10 years overseas. After a decade abroad, Bonita is now back in dusty Manila and experiencing the total culture shock. No training or independence in Hong Kong, Singapore, Taiwan, or the United Kingdom has prepared for the unruliness that is the Philippines, along with the drama that’s going on with her friends, her family and her life.

NamelessinTaipei is about life, love and work experienced while back in Manila. Totally tactless and judgmental, unapologetic and no holds barred, Bonita writes with much candor that the only way she gets away with it is via the anonymity found in this blog.

About Me:

I have issues. Well, not really. But I have thoughts and derive great pleasure in writing about them, just as you enjoy reading them right now.

As my guest, I would appreciate if you can respect my privacy especially if you know me outside this blog. Please do not take any of my posts personally (e.g., it’s not all about you dear), or judge me based on what you’ve read. People are more complex than a few words in a public forum.

Oh and if you are offended,Β feel free to exercise your free will to leave. No hard feelings.Β πŸ™‚

Thanks once again for dropping by. To get in touch, leave a comment. I’ll respond to you as fast as I can.

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40 Responses to About

  1. arthur chang says:

    Aug 17. reading your post for long time. first ive seen you password protect one.. it must be real good story

    Art C

  2. bonita says:

    Not just a good story but a very personal one as well. Will release it once the issue is no longer as sensitive. Hope that’s okay. πŸ™‚

  3. Moving_To_Taipei says:

    Hi there,
    Got to your blog through some random google searches…well..I am moving to Taipei as an expat very soon and (knowing that you no longer live in Taiwan, good luck with HKUST btw), would you have some contacts for me in Taipei?
    Please feel free to mail me.
    Cheers

    • Bonita says:

      Sorry but do you still need contacts? I would suggest meeting up friends from Oriented.com and CAPT. They’re a great source of new friends. πŸ™‚

  4. graeme82 says:

    I’m a Canadian living in the Philippines and keeping a journal for my friends and family to follow. I took lots of pictures of videos of my recent trip to Boracay, but none of D’Mall. I was wondering if I could use the photo you took on my blog and place a link to your blog post or homepage and place a photo credit on the picture?

    Thanks

  5. crystaltao says:

    Hi. You have a wonderful blog.
    And there is one specific post which I got interested in.
    I also have a blog and wanted to use that post (but not in a direct way).
    Anyway, could you please contact me?

    My name is Crystal. You can contact me through “About” page on
    http://www.lovelovechina.com

    Thanks.

  6. crystaltao says:

    Bonita,
    I got your message, but my reply-mail came back with mail delivery failure message.
    Do you have another mail address?
    My mail is luvluvchina@gmail.com .

  7. Gemma says:

    Hello, we’re SKIN Marketing China. We hereby on behalf of our client Barry
    Callebaut, want to send you a press release about the World Chocolate Masters
    Finals. Please send an email to me and I can send you the details and ask
    whether you’ve got the interest in reporting it. We can pay you for the post and
    talk about the promotion cooperation. Thanks. Gemma

  8. Pauline says:

    I like your writing style, truly speaking. I was attracted to your blog by searching some information about full-time MBA. We have a common at this point. I’m applying my MBA this year. For getting a full support from my parents, I have been fighting with them. Actually, what I have been doing within recent several months is arguing, persuading and pleaing with my parents, including myself. I knew that they really worry about me, and my future. I have been working for more than 13 years since my graduation from university. It is really hard for me to make a decision but I think it deserves to do it.
    I will be having an interview this Sunday and got me nervous there. Wish me good luck. What I can do is go – jump into it

  9. Bonita says:

    Thanks a lot Pauline. Btw, I wrote m blog entry on behalf of your comment. Please really think about why you’re doing an MBA. Am glad I did it but it’s not for everyone. If you have been working for over 13 years, would you ever consider an EMBA? The network is so much better… πŸ™‚

    Where are you interviewing? Good luck and just want it. You should get it. πŸ™‚

  10. Ann says:

    Hi! I came across your blog this morning while I am at home sick and looking for a Filipino-Chinese doctor online. I was surprised to learn of someone with common sentiments (re: cute things, superficial news/preoccupation, chinese families in the Phils., being Fil-Chi in Taiwan, etc.). It got me to thinking about many things and most especially about moving on with my life. I never really had the pleasure of being in Fr. Ferriols’ class (if I’m assuming correctly that we are talking about the same person), but I have forgotten what it was like to hear and have intelligent conversation for a long time now. So thank you and more power to you wherever you are now.

  11. yenn says:

    Hi , I came across your blog while browsing. From your blog, it seems like you worked in financial institution in Taipei before your MBA ? I am currently working in one of european investment bank in Singapore and thinking to move to Taipei to work. Just want to find out the employment policy and opportunity for foreigner working in financial services in Taiwan.
    My email address is renzene@hotmail.com.
    Glad to hear from you soon. Thanks!

  12. Bonita says:

    Yenn, Taipei is still a satellite office for most banks so unlike Singapore, you’re further away from HQ/core management. However, from a work/life balance perspective, Taipei is great. Your colleagues would be as friendly as in Singapore, and you’ll have a lot of fun getting to know the city, getting around the country, and meeting new people. The salary is of course lower, but taxes are lower too. Overall, it all depends. If you’re there as a step-up in experience, then good. But to stay for a lifelong career, best to just go to Hong Kong.

  13. Yenn says:

    Hi Bonita, Thanks for the reply. I lived in Taipei before for 3 months two years back and I enjoyed Taiwan very much especially the culture , fun and the friendliness.Just wondering if they ever consider foreigner like me. I heard the government and policy make foreign hires difficult in Taiwan. Most foreigners who work there are more into engineering / tech field.
    How did you get a job in banking at the first place ? Did you get it from Philippines as in before you went to Taipei? What did you do in a bank in Taipei last time ?

    I am actually indonesian chinese who has been living in Singapore for about 10 years .I am in middle office , investment bank operation, looking forward to trying something different if possible.

  14. Bonita says:

    I was working in Taiwan when I moved to the bank. I had an offer BEFORE I moved, so they arranged all the working papers for me. If you have an offer already, then go for it. But if you’re going there to see if you can find a job, it’s a tough call especially since most banks are cutting people. You also need to speak Mandarin well. πŸ™‚

  15. carol says:

    Hi Bonita,
    I came across your site when i was searching for HK UST dorm pictures. I really enjoyed reading your posts and I think we have almost a chilling percent of things/experiences in common. I’m also in a great career for 8 years now and just got into HK UST MBA program. I would love to connect with you to hear about your experience.
    If possible you can email me or friend me on facebook.
    Thanks!!!!

  16. Bonita says:

    Carol, please send me your email and I will get in touch with you. πŸ™‚

  17. Carol says:

    Hi Bonita, you can email me at the above address. Thanks!

  18. Carol says:

    Hi Bonita if you don’t mind, please email me directly to my email. I would rather not post too much personal info on a public site. Thanks

  19. chichow says:

    FYI – you have spam comments on some of your latest posts. tc.

  20. Bonita says:

    Thanks for the heads up Chichow. Think the posts from David are legit?

  21. Briton says:

    Grow health care a longer pipe.

  22. Kim says:

    Hi Bonita! Stumbled across your speed dating blog post and kept reading from there. I love how you express yourself, and can definitely relate even if I actually have more in common (in terms of my personal life/history) with some of the local (Philippines-based) female friends you occasionally mention here. Would love to be able to talk some more, if you wouldn’t mind doing it over email as I have some privacy issues in public forums like wordpress. πŸ™‚

    • Bonita says:

      Hi Kim! Thanks a lot for your note. Hmmm, would it be possible for you to give me your email so I can contact you?

      • Kim says:

        Hi Bonita! Wow, only saw your reply more than a year later! LOL. Congratulations on your wedding by the way. πŸ™‚

        If you’re still OK with getting in touch, any other way I can send my email to you? Would rather not do it in a publicly searchable forum where bots can get a hold of my email address.

  23. Ker says:

    Hi, Bonita. I chanced upon this blog post while I was looking into my potential universities. I will be taking up a Bachelor of Business Administration this coming fall semester in either HKUST or NUS. I was hoping you could give me some insight into how you went about choosing HKUST over the other universities. Also, how well recognized is HKUST overseas, if you don’t mind me asking? Thanks!

    • Bonita says:

      Hi Ker, depends on where you want to work. If you want to work in HK, HKU and HKUST are the two best schools. For SG, I think that would be NUS (?) though I’m not sure.

      I chose HKUST because it is known for finance, the field where I came from and would like to continue to get into. I also wanted to work in HK because I felt that salaries in HK were higher than that of Singapore. It’s also more international of a city in my opinion, and has less restrictions. Alcohol is cheaper too! In a way, I worked in HK and felt more comfortable there. It is however a more aggressive work place to be in, but I felt it made me a better person.

      Where are you from? Where would you like to work? If you want to work in Asia, depending on the country you want to work for? If you want to work overseas like in the US, better go for a US school.

  24. Sel says:

    Good day! I chanced upon one of your posts and I’d like to discuss a few things with regard to this matter, is there a different venue where we may exchange Ideas? Thanks! πŸ™‚

  25. chengedward312 says:

    My initial post didn’t show, this is a test comment to check if you read my post πŸ˜€

  26. chengedward312 says:

    Unfortunately, it didn’t

    Hi! I’ve been an avid fan of your blog. I’m sorry for the random comment and for the straightforward post, may is it possible for me to ask have an opportunity to listen and chat to Ms.Bonita personally? I’m graduating student at University in Pasig πŸ™‚ What I aspire for is similar to your achievements πŸ™‚ Entering the corporate field, taking up an MBA and/or staring or helping my own business (or family’s business) after! But recently, I’ve been experiencing apprehensions about what lies ahead of me; with the setbacks I’ve been encountering recently. I would love to listen to someone that I look up to and could relate. Considering that I also experience the strain of being part of the Chinese community, and with your position now… I aspire to have the same achievements as yours in the future πŸ™‚ hope for you reply!

    • Bonita says:

      Hi Edward, my path is quite normal. I studied my ass off, and got decent grades. I was active in extracurriculars and held leadership positions in a respectable org. This made me “attractive” to corporate recruiters and potential employers.

      Because of my grades and leadership position, I was offered a one-year scholarship to go abroad. Versus taking a nice marketing job at a MNC or getting paid to learn chinese and live life overseas, I took the latter. After studying, I started working again. Every job I took, I once again worked my ass off. I was paid really well (vs. people my age), in most of the jobs I took. Was it because of luck? No! I remember overworking myself in every job I took on. I was stressed and got the job done, and because I was reliable and competent, my employers gradually increased my salary.

      It was only through marriage that I actively entered business again. And then I realized that working for someone else was a walk in a park vs. managing your own business. Now, you have more livelihoods to sustain and people to feed! That’s a lot of responsibility! But like before, I am working my ass off, and through God’s grace, it’s slowly gaining fruit.

      In summary, it’s ok to have doubts. It’s ok to be afraid. It’s ok to ask questions. But the only question I have for you is: what are you doing about it?

      I did a lot more doing than problematising about where my life is going. I made choices, leaped at every opportunity, and if I made the wrong choices (like choosing my OJT), I learned from the experience and corrected myself along the way. In everything I did as well, I gave it my all. And if you give it your all, it would be impossible to get somewhere. I did it. You can too. Let me know if you have any specific questions you’d like me to answer. Thanks! -Bonita

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  27. I occasionally like to see what comes up as I google my name. Your review of my comedy show in 2008 popped up and it brought back some great memories. (Tropical Penguins…)

    Glad to see you are still writing.

  28. Fran Choi says:

    Hi Bonita! I’m happy I chanced upon your blog because I am a Tsinay living in Taiwan as well. I started my 5-year Medicine program in Taiwan 2 years ago. My school is in Kaohsiung. I was wondering if you have other Fil-Chi friends that I can connect with? πŸ™‚

  29. I wonder what happened to you Bonita. Your last entry was last year and it’s you talked you being HIV Reactive. What happened to the second result? Are you ok? Hope you read this.

  30. Mark says:

    Hi Bonita, It sounds like you are doing well and I’m glad to hear you are born again. I also found God in my life as well…I just wanted to write you and ask your forgiveness for breaking up during our relationship. Yes…it was the age gap that really bothered me…it wasn’t you at all…we were actually pretty good together. Yes…I was pretty messed up during that time in my life. I really like what you said about our relationship though…it was good. I am glad that we both found someone fantastic in our lives…congratulations on your beautiful daughter…may God bless you, your husband and your daughter….Mark

    • Bonita says:

      Hey Mark! Long time no see! I’m glad you also found God. And thanks for writing and asking for forgiveness. Much appreciated. Am smiling right now as I write this.

      You’re right, it was an amazing relationship while it lasted. First, you are a cool person, and two, you really are a nice guy. You introduced me to the concept of what a good relationship should be, and even up until now, I still think of you fondly.

      Because of that brief relationship, I realized that a good relationship needed to be with someone extremely compatible to you. And we were so alike in so many ways. That’s probably why it was harder to break up: despite the short period, we shared so many interests and common friends, we still bumped into each other often even after we broke up!

      On the flip side, you opened up my relationship with hubby. He’s like you actually – also a nice kind hearted guy, very compatible to me, we can talk for hours, and yeah, also divorced! So it’s like Deja vu, but better of course. No age gap with this one, and we’re super happy together. He also does our laundry so some things never change. πŸ™‚

      To be honest, the only two sour thing you did to me was 1) to date Debbie afterwards (she was a year younger than me by the way) and 2) to unfriend me on Facebook, which was unnecessary since I was mature enough to move on with my life. But I harbored no ill feelings and merely shrugged it off to your midlife crisis, so all is well. I understood where you were coming from and yeah, it was a messy period in your life and am glad you finally acknowledged it. Besides, Debbie is also a wonderful person and I understood her appeal. We are friends by the way, and I am equally ecstatic that she found her own happiness with her family and career. She deserves every bit of it.

      But you did finally make up and got your life together by finally dating and marrying your current wife. When I saw you remarried, and who you remarried, I was very happy for you. It was good to see you get your life back together! And while I don’t know your wife personally, I knew she and her children love and appreciate you for all that you are. And to top it off, a new addition to the family!

      So in the end, all ended well. I am very glad we all found happiness and are now where we all belong. There is a happy ever after after all. And besides, your leaving me a note in my blog — didn’t know you or anyone I know read it — was a nice touch and a good surprise.

      So now that we’re friends again, can you friend me again on Facebook? Haha! πŸ˜„

      • Mark says:

        Hi Bonita, I would Facebook a lot of my old gf’s but out of respect for my wife, I decided that I would not Facebook any of them. That just wouldn’t be cool for her. I normally don’t keep in contact with any of my previous relationships (not out of disrespect for you or others but out of respect for my wife). After this note, I most likely won’t be in contact much (I hope you understand)…but I felt that you deserved a sincere apology for what happened. You really are a cool person and I did enjoy the time we had together. Best wishes to you and your family ! :o)

        • Bonita says:

          Oooooh I get it. Thanks for explaining. No worries! Am glad you still touched base. Best wishes to you and your family too!

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