“It’s Mine…. It’s Mine… It’s MIIIIIIIIIIIIINNNNNNNEEEEE!” screamed my usually lovely 3-year old, who suddenly turned into a Baby Hyde in a matter of seconds.
She was at the floor, writhing and clutching at the big baby bottle filled with marshmallows. I think she didn’t want me to touch the bottle, which she said was hers.
I have never seen anyone treat such item with such possessiveness, and there she was, my daughter, insisting that nobody, not even her loving mommy, should touch her and her big precious baby bottle.
She was never really like this.
Before she hit three, she was always sweet and adorable. She sometimes sulked when she didn’t get her way, but never like this.
As soon as she turned three, she became this:
When a child’s tantrum unexpectedly hits, a mother is usually caught offguard.
What happened to my sweet, malambing baby, who turned into this terrifying crying mess that don’t want to be touched or bothered? All of a sudden, cheap purchases become priceless, and she’s ready to scream, gnaw and hit anyone who dare touch what she deems is hers.
So what did we do?
We let her cry.
We watched her with a neutral expression, made sure that she doesn’t hurt herself and let her scream and cry on the floor.
As long as she was safe, we were fine with her pulling the tantrum.
I slightly felt like a mean and unsupportive parent, but shrugged the mommy guilt away. What can we do? She was being a brat, and unreasonable. And maybe it’s the Terrible Threes (She just turned 3 last December 9) that everyone’s been talking about.
Hooooboy. The crying took at least 30 minutes, and it felt like forever.
But it was fine.
After she got tired, I asked her if she wanted to mammam and she tearingly said yes. As she breastfed, she started to calm down…. and sniffled all the way through.
Half an hour later, she was back to her sweet self again, as if nothing happened. It was just as surprising for us to see her wail and scream and shout, and then cling happily to us with nary a guilt or memory on what happened.
Note to Self: The next time it happens, just keep your cool. Watch with a bemused smile, and make sure she doesn’t hurt herself. Talk calmly and wait for the anger to subside.
My lovely lady tantrumed again a few days later, but it was shorter this time, around 10 minutes. I guess she learned that she may feel angry and express it, but heck if she gets her way.
So tantrum all you want dear girl.
Let it out.
It’s better to show it now when you’re three than later.
At the end of the day, mommy still loves you, and will be there for you after we pick up the pieces.
And no, you still won’t get your way.
We are still her parents after all.
Happy new year!