My friend J, who I have talked about in this post, “When a man chase after a woman and he’s not that cute,” has been busted by his potential lady love.
Long story short, the woman said she only wanted to be friends.
Of course, the man was heartbroken.
At 42 years old, he wanted to settle down and start a family stat. He thought that this beautiful, sexy and smart woman was his last hope.
Unfortunately, the woman just didn’t think he was her type.
I guess, women are picky when it comes to looks. The “I don’t look cute but I can love and take care of you forever” spiel did NOT work on her.
Hence, friend was depressed.
He changed his Facebook profile and cover photos, resigned from his post, and stayed at home and cried.
Loss is a powerful feeling.
To be honest, J did not really know my friend.
If he knew my friend, he can easily see just how incompatible they were.
She was indecisive and flighty. He wanted to settle down.
She was still busy dating around and enjoying the company of men. He was already tired of going from one shallow relationship to the next and wants to start a family ASAP.
She was unsure of her future and is thinking of switching jobs for better job security. She lives in Singapore but is working with a work visa. He is happy where he is here in the Philippines.
And yet, he cried for her.
Because loss is a very powerful feeling.
No matter how incompatible we are, we react violently when that something gets removed from us.
It’s the same when I broke up with my last boyfriend. In fairness, I didn’t love or appreciate him as much when we were together. I didn’t treat him as good as I should if I truly valued him.
However, when he broke up with me, it was as if my world shattered. I didn’t know what to do. And I wanted him back, even though consciously, I knew we were not meant to be.
Funny how our heart does one thing, even though it knows it’s not the best thing for us.
Same with my friend.
He wanted her even though they really weren’t meant to be. If they were, she would have been more accepting of his love declarations.
That’s why, this is a lesson for us: Feelings are not the best indicators on whether we are a good fit for another person. Feelings can still fool us. In the end, we have to see through time and actions if the person is a good fit.
How about you? Have you lost something and made a big deal from it even though you know it’s not the right decision for you?
Have a great weekend!