Most women dreamt about their wedding since they were young.
They’ve leafed through wedding magazines, pinned their favorite colors and motifs on Pinterest, and started random conversations with, “If I got married…”
No, not me.
Actually, the first time I’ve even dared buy my first wedding magazine – for research of course – was a week after fiancée proposed.
I was admittedly embarrassed and fiancée was gleeful. “You know, it’s okay to be excited about your own wedding,” he said. “As long of course you don’t turn into bridezilla.”
Then he paused and requested, “Please don’t turn into bridezilla.”
Wedding preparations not really all the happy fairy tale people dream about. As an events organizer, I know arranging a one-day event is a breeze.
“Just be decisive,” my friend from the US advised.
Unfortunately, a one day wedding where you hope you’d only have once (unless you’ve already separated and divorced” becomes complicated once other parties start coming into the midst. It’s also doubly complicated since it’s the groom’s family that is footing the bill and I don’t want to spend unnecessarily.
“Your mommy sounds unenthusiastic,” my future mother-in-law observed. “Maybe it’s because of the issues between you and your brother?”
“Oh no auntie, it’s just that she’s been busy,” I explained.
And she was — she just returned from a weeklong vacation from Ilo-Ilo and Cebu for a friend’s wedding.
Still, it’s a dark cloud that hangs on everyone’s head when everyone is happy you’re getting married except your brother. He doesn’t really like the fiancée as much, though I think it’s mostly because of unfortunate misunderstanding and circumstance.
Regardless, it’s a wedding and nobody wants to be a bad guy and rain on anyone’s parade.
So the good news is, people in the office is happy about our engagement. Finally, they’ve allowed to let their hair down a bit.
Two, we already have the invited number pegged at 500-550 people. This is a medium-sized wedding. A richer family would probably have double that number.
Three, fiancée had been mighty supportive and tries hard not to laugh at me while I navigate around the wedding preparation mess. He has been so far helpful and has helped me direct some details such as:
- Color motif would be white, light sunny yellow and gold accents
- My bridesmaids would be my two beautiful cousins and some best friends from overseas. My brothers girlfriend will NOT be part of the entourage.
- The venue would not be a hotel. We prefer it slightly whimsical and unique. Fiancée wants the Christian ceremony at the venue itself followed by a cocktail and sit-down dinner.
- Dinner would be plated and not buffet-style. Our caterer would be Chef Jessie, who also catered my future sister-in-law’s wedding
- We will have an engagement party. As to where and when, I’ll keep you posted
Anyway it’s been early days so we shall see. Till I have more details, I’ll let you all know.
Pls pray for a smooth wedding preparation! Happy happy joy joy!