A friend of mine got his girlfriend pregnant. According to her, it was a “Whoops!” moment.
“Yes, need to save up because the baby’s on the way,” he sheepishly said.
They have already been dating for 7 years.
The last time I talked to him a few months ago, he was enjoying the bachelor life. After taking over his brother’s business, he has managed to successfully step out his brother’s shadow. Many of his work are now winning awards, and he’s now starting to make a name for himself.
“I don’t want to get married yet,” he said. “So many things yet to do.”
Oh well, it’s a bit too late now.
Here in the Philippines, you usually marry the girl if you get her pregnant. A lot of marriages start out that way. Not the best reason to get hitched, but that’s the way love goes.
Whereas it is shameful to actually impregnate your girlfriend, it’s even more shameful if you don’t do right with her and marry her.
“Oh well, it’s about time anyway,” some people justified. “They have been dating for 7 years now. Matagal-tagal na din.”
“She’s nice naman e, and has been there for him since the beginning,” others would say. “Maybe it’s a sign from God. A blessing in disguise.”
My personal opinion?
NOBODY GETS PREGNANT BY ACCIDENT.
I have two theories. If you get pregnant, either:
- The girl is stupid who was born in the 1900s and don’t know anything about birth control, or
- It was intentional, and that makes her evil because she wants to trap the guy in a marriage. It’s not uncommon. In Taiwan, I know of some women who would intentionally take a pin and poke holes in the condom.
Look, if you do it, you know that there’s always a risk of pregnancy. If you don’t want to get pregnant, pick your poison: condoms, pills, the morning after pill, or abstinence. There’s a gazillion ways to prevent pregnancy IF you don’t want a kid.
If you don’t want to use pills or any sort of birth control because you’re a Christian/Catholic, then how about abstinence? You really don’t have to do it, or put yourself in a position to be tempted.
And what about being a Christian?
It’s bad enough that you’re doing it because the Bible had always been clear about its views in pre-marital sex. But to make it worse, you get caught doing it, and your baby is the direct result of that.
All through your life, people will look and say, “Oh, nabuntis siya kaya sila nagpakasal.” (They got married because she got pregnant).
And who would want that?
Marriage is all about choices. You choose to marry the person because of so-and-so reason. Marriage because of pregnancy is the worst reason to get married.
I stand firm in my conviction.
There are no accidental pregnancies.
Only the wise women (who want to trap a non-committal guy into a marriage) or careless ones (who are complete idiots).
Do you agree or disagree?