Is He Moving Too Fast?

I met a boy.

Around a month ago.

How I met him was super cheesy. Don’t laugh ha.

We were introduced via email by a friend. Being an articulate person, he wrote in a way that piqued my interest. You know about me and words. I’m a sucker for words.

He told me about his family, and his work. He shared with me the funny things about his life. He has a personality, a weird one at that, but weirdness and straight-up honesty have always been celebrated. I’d rather have an honest jerk than a so-called nice guy who turned out to be a jerk in the end.

Messages followed, then he got my SMS.

And we’ve been texting ever since. A few times a day, and sometimes, more.

We actually went out last week. He took me to a casual steak restaurant in Pasig. Seven hours of talking, and three bottles of wine later, I went home.

His text said he’s had an amazing time. 🙂

He’s been trying to get me to date #2, 3 and 4 this week but circumstances from the family front prevented me from doing so. It’s cool though that he’s thinking of taking me wallclimbing (love!), or shooting range (wanna try!).

I reminisce that this is how guys usually pursue a girl at first. Trader, I remember, took me to a nice pricey restaurant in Singapore on our first “date” (though I didn’t know it was a date then), only to find out that he didn’t really do that very often and did that only to impress me.

Anyway, since he couldn’t really take me out, he has called me once or twice in the evening already. Talked for a few hours, the normal banana.

Last night, he SMS’d: “Just wanted to tell you that I miss you and want to see you again.”

His out-of-town sister is also here in Manila with her hubby for the weekend. A wedding for a random cousin. He thinks it’s great if I met his wonderful brother-in-law since we shared banking work histories together.

Brother thinks we are moving too fast.

I was like, “Me? Moving too fast?”

From my mindset, I’m just doing my own thing. Texting him back whenever he did, enjoying the conversation as much as he did. In other words, I am just getting to know him better as he I.

Since I haven’t been in Manila for the last 10 years, I don’t know how things are done here. I don’t know how guys pursue (though I have an inkling its via SMS) and though I know he is interested, I don’t know if he’s serious. Nor am I assuming anything.

Anyway, if I’ve met his sister and her hubbie, is that a lot of pressure? Mind you, we’re not exclusively dating yet and we’ve only been out once. Is it too soon to meet the family?

And given how our relationship has progressed, is he moving too fast? And am I a guilty party of it?

Comments appreciated. 🙂


About Bonita

I'm a forgetful person. But I think a lot. Every day, a lot of thoughts enter my head. That's why this blog came to be: first, to keep my memories alive through the years, and two, to actually see how I and my thoughts have changed. Please note that I seldom draft or edit my posts. Sometimes, if I'm not careful, I offend some of you, my readers. And while I apologize for making you feel uncomfortable, I am not sorry for being honest or for making well-intentioned mistakes. I will however be the first to admit if I change my mind. Hence, do read and proceed with caution. My life is as colorful and as boring as you make it. I complain many days, but offer some encouragement in others. Life is fluid, it changes. So keep the positives and throw away the negatives, and I do hope that at the end of the day, you will enjoy reading the blog and leaving comments here and there if my posts touches you. Happy reading!
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5 Responses to Is He Moving Too Fast?

  1. It sounds like quite the nicest thing. Moving too fast? No, I don’t think so. Your brother is likely a bit over-protective.

    Besides, in that torpid climate, moving at all is miraculous.

  2. Lance says:

    na.. not too fast .. go go go !!!!!

  3. Fili says:

    sounds absolutely wonderful. there’s still romance in our dark world, that’s reassuring.

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