Hairy Issues

Ever since I was young, I’ve always had straight, ultra-fine long hair.

Yup, that’s right — this girlie has never shorn off her locks above her shoulders.

They grew long and straight, and at one point as a young girl, even reached up to my buttocks. Of course, that was also when I was around 6 and shorter, so it was not yet too uncool to grow your hair that long.

In addition to being long, my hair is also so fine and feels like silk to touch.

Even women find it surprising on how fine it is.

So soft,” they’ll exclaim.

It’s only when I touch other women’s hair that I start realizing just how fine my hair really is — most women’s hair are actually a lot coarser than mine.

Now,don’t get me wrong, am not being egotistical and saying that it’s a good thing because it’s not.

When I used to hang around often at my ex-boyfriend’s place, he said that I was like a dog because I shed hair like crazy. Sure, he loved the way my hair would fall on his shoulders when we hugged, but at the same time, he would always be muttering and sweeping the floor, because there was my hair, all over the place.

Haha, maybe that’s why we broke up. Yup, blaming the breakup on the hair! 🙂

At times however, it scares me. Am afraid that I may go bald as I get older because my hair’s too thin. What if I ran out? 😦

Given that, hair is actually a big part of me. Every time I take a quick trip to a hair-dresser, I return saddened, hating my new look. It’s like losing a dear friend, who’s always been with you through thick and thin.

Personally, I like having long hair.

As my face is quite round, I think cutting my hair short would make me look like a mushroom (as below).

I am NOT exaggerating. Or a Chinese bao zi whatever you fancy. Anyway, it would just look awful. Trust me.

What’s more, as this lady is already muscular enough through all her exercise at the climbing gym, and too masculine enough via all her wayward opinions, I think the long hair helps in making people think that I’m at least feminine. Of course, we all know that I am not feminine at all, but still, it makes me feel a tad better that I somehow retain a bit of feminity amidst all these strong characteristic of mine.

That, and wearing flowing pink skirts.

The problem with long black straight fine hair though is that it’s also super boring.

Dull, yawn, zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz…..

So given this dilemma, I’d like to jazz it up a bit. But how?

Well, there’s dying your hair.

There was a time when I wanted to dye my long locks, much to my mother’s chagrin. “Don’t do anything to your beautiful hair,” she begged. “I’ll just give you the cash but keep the hair.” That was the time when highlights and hazel nut-colored hair were in fashion.

Highlighted hair is beautiful. I still think that way, and appreciate those women who can regularly maintain properly highlighted hair. Somehow, they look professional and classy.

Unfortunately, dying your hair also destroys the hair.

If you aren’t too careful and not properly maintain it, fizzles and split ends happen. And of course, in this day and age, who has the time to go to a salon every month and give your hair a pampering? Honestly speaking, if it was me, my hair would grow like weeds at Daan Park. Just awful!

What’s more, highlighted hair is not a novelty in Taiwan anymore.

When I arrived in Taiwan and saw that everybody looked somewhat Caucasian with their artificially-colored hair. Not that it doesn’t look nice, but it made never-dyed-black hair somewhat more special to me. Hence, thank god for mom’s advice, but finally had a renewed appreciation for my ebony-colored do and kept it as it is.

Of course, nothing is that simple.

Girls with long straight hair want short curly hair.

Women with curls want them straightened.

The grass is always greener at the other side.

Now, I’ve dabbled into the idea of curling my hair with large wavy curls like Michelle Trachtenberg (as below):

Ain’t it beautiful?

*Swoons*

My friend Lisa suggests that I curl my hair and wear loads of mascara for a more mature look. “Your straight hair makes you look younger. I’d suggest you try curling it for a change so that you can look a bit older. It’s hard to curl it once you’re actually old. By the time you’re 30, you’d just want to stick to straight hair ’cause it makes you look younger.”

Am actually seriously thinking about it. I actually think curly hair done right is very sexy.

The only hangup for now is that:

1) am ultra busy with work right now so spending 3-4 hours in a salon is asking for too much,

2) it costs over NT$4,000 (approx USD130) to curl my hair that long, so who has that spare cash lying around

and 3) I have no clue what I’d look like with curly hair.

What if I hated it?

My friend tells me, “Well, you can always straighten it if it looks terrible,” but for a person who values her hair, it would be so stupid to iron it with curls, then iron it back straight in a short span of time.

Oh, and not counting that whole experiment would cost me almost NT$10,000 and around 8 unproductive hours in a salon!

So anyway, am still thinking about it.

Regardless, it’s interesting however how other people look at the curly hair vs. straight hair debate.

If you googled the question, consensus state that it’s the confidence and personality of a woman that catches the eye of a guy. However, what’s funny is that given a choice, straight hair gets more votes because it’s neater, and looks more feminine.

I found NaturallyCurly’s article, Curly vs. Straight: Which Do Men Prefer?, quite interesting.

There, she chronicles her experiment where she posts two online ads with the exact same content save that one posted her in curls, and the other, with long-straight hair.

Her results?

  • The straight profile was viewed 1,606 times for the month, while the curly one received 1,063 views during the month it was posted.
  • The flat-ironed look drew 181 e-mails, compared with 60 for the curly profile.
  • On the flirtatious side, the stick-straight profile received 120 winks, while curly locks caught winks from 60 men.
  • In about 10 percent of the dates, hair made a difference, while confidence was the driving factor in the remainder of the connections.

Oooh my. Makes me NOT want to do anything to my hair ever!

Regardless, as I’ve mentioned earlier, as I’ve never curled my hair, change is also an attractive option. Straight hair can sometimes be boring. 🙂

So yes, right now, am thinking of getting a hair-update.

And being the indecisive Libran, I can’t decide.

So maybe you can help?

Honestly speaking, for guys, what type of hair do you prefer in a woman? Do you like it short, medium-length, or long? Do you like curls or wavy or straight? Now, don’t tell me any generic answers like, “Whatever looks best on her,” because that doesn’t help me decide at all. Yes, we all know what the safe answer is, but please, do you have a preference?

For women, share your hairy experiences as well. I mean, as I’ve always had dull straight hair, maybe those who have had their hair treated can share their experiences. Have you ever regretted deciding to dye, color, straighten or treat your hair? Do share!

Anyway, thanks in advance for sharing. Meanwhile, attention to Flute, Goran and J. Xu. Would you mind leaving me your email addresses on the comment box? I have some news I’d like to share with you, and would want to send you a mail privately.

Thanks all and sorry for the lack of updates! Been extremely busy with work. Hopefully, things would get better going forward.

Btw, had a great weekend. Hope yours was too. Have a good week everyone!

Advertisements

About Bonita

I'm a forgetful person. But I think a lot. Every day, a lot of thoughts enter my head. That's why this blog came to be: first, to keep my memories alive through the years, and two, to actually see how I and my thoughts have changed. Please note that I seldom draft or edit my posts. Sometimes, if I'm not careful, I offend some of you, my readers. And while I apologize for making you feel uncomfortable, I am not sorry for being honest or for making well-intentioned mistakes. I will however be the first to admit if I change my mind. Hence, do read and proceed with caution. My life is as colorful and as boring as you make it. I complain many days, but offer some encouragement in others. Life is fluid, it changes. So keep the positives and throw away the negatives, and I do hope that at the end of the day, you will enjoy reading the blog and leaving comments here and there if my posts touches you. Happy reading!
This entry was posted in Things I Ponder About, Updates. Bookmark the permalink.

6 Responses to Hairy Issues

  1. Goran says:

    Have you considered dreadlocks? The ultimate quality for money style, guaranteed to make an impact wherever you go! We also offer a wide selection of liberty spikes, mohawks and… ok ok, just kidding. Don’t kill me please 🙂

    Adding a disclaimer of “everyone has his style and can be beautiful with any type of hair blah blah blah same old” first…
    … I’d say that I generally think medium (say, to shoulders or a bit past or so) length straight or maybe wavy hair looks most attractive to me. So the pick is say, straight medium-length hair, because it is (imo) associated with classic and natural look. If there’s a color preference, I’d say dark brown but anything goes.

    To comment a bit more, wavy is pretty as well, but looks better with long hair.
    Curly (again imo), while I find it pretty but not as much as other styles, signals activity and confidence the most of all three, however. Why activity? Because not many people have naturally curly hair, so it is assumed that a lot of time and effort went into it and these are connected with a lot of care for yourself.
    Honorable mentions also go to the ponytail, which again imo can look very appealing if the hair is not too long.
    That would be all as far as the hair goes… stay tuned for commercials and we wish you a pleasant evening!

    Before I forget, of course I’d be glad to hear from you, Raven. I can be reached at:

    big_pig_cycling@hotmail.com

    (my pride and joy for 10 years now!)

    Cheers!
    Goran

  2. J. Xu says:

    .. :)… what’s the scoop :D…..

    -> go_no_point@hotmail.com

    ===

    .. well like you, I also have long hair… a month ago, it was till my butt and now… I’ve cut it… T___T ….. enough said huh?? :P…

    .. I do understand that it gets boring and that you would like to have something different -> something fresh & spunk, like the girls walking down the street, with their hair in the latest style…
    .. I’ve done it all with what peeps can imagine with hair… I’ve dyed it, colored it, straightened and bladie blie, bladie bla… and everytime, afterwards… I’m like WTF?? .. T______T … ;)…..
    .. I liked it when it was straightened btw. …

    .. although long hair can be boring, it’s the best style which suits me and not a lot of people can pull this off..
    -> why did I cut my hair last month??… maybe to close the chapter for good with Pokémon….. tryin’ to give the past a place in my heart…
    .. but heck…, now I’m facing the future 24/7 with a hat on my head… T__T!!!!!.. hah, no, sorry :P… I’m overexaggerating…..
    .. the new style is ok, but I like the long hair till my butt best -> you don’t know what you’re missing till it’s gone…

    ===

    .. nice to hear that everything is ok (^-^)!!!…

    With love,

    J.

  3. Brian Lau says:

    Taking personality considerations completely outta the equation and judging purely on the male Stop and Gawk Superficiality Factor – yea I’d have to say long, straight and feathered inwards (whatever that means?) gets the vote here.

    As for figuring out how the styles might turn out – remember this: we’re currently living in the age of Photoshop….. 😉

  4. Ivy says:

    Raven =)
    Taiwanese girls love to change their hairstyle , big curls, small curls, colors and all xD.

    That makes me want to get my hair curly, it looks kinda sexy..but somehow i’m just afraid it might not turn out the way i want.

    If u want to keep your hair long n straight. Layer it! i think it look nice =) it wont look that much boring..I never done anything to my hair, but my hair is not really thin straight, it’s kinda wavy in a way..which looks nice =) and i have them layered a lil…

    im happy to see something here. Usually u update very often so it got me worried, but hope everything is okay =) Good that u are alright. Take care a lot~~~ and have a great day =)

  5. Adam says:

    you are so fucking retarded

  6. J. Xu says:

    * me wavin’ …

    ..bye bye adam … ;)…..

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s