…by sharing any news with somebody who don’t like you too much.
T’is a hard lesson that I need to learn time and time again.
Once a person has his/her mind set about you, it’s really hard to change it.
Say, for example, this person perceives you as a nice person. Even if you did something uncool, he/she would still defend you by thinking, “Am sure there’s a good reason for that. I don’t think she’s that kind of a girl.”
Which is true — one should stop judging other people unless you’re aware of the entire story.
However, when a person sees the negative in you, say, you’re selfish, all of your actions will revolve around being selfish.
For example, if you call that person and he doesn’t pick up after the sixth ring, you’re selfish… because you give him a missed call with the intention of wanting him to call you back to save yourself a few pennies.
Or you’re uncool when you complain about a staff member’s bad service to his boss on somebody’s behalf. “Why? She never did anything bad to you. Why complain?”
Geez man. Chill.
That reminds me to stay away from negative influences. They’re too much ma-fan to keep in contact with. Anything good you do, will never be recognized. Anything bad will be hyped up till there’s no tomorrow and your heart and ear hurt.
There’s far more positive people to surround oneself with. Why go for someone who’s just a pain to get along with? When people have a bias against you, as much as possible, stay away — or just get your hand bit hard.
“There are a million fish in the sea,” is an adage that can go with both friendships and any type of relationship. Haha, too bad there are some people you really can’t choose to be with. Say, your colleagues. What if they don’t like you? What do you do? You’d still have to work with them day in and day out unless one of you quit.
My best solution is just to nudge the problem under the rug and just minimize interaction with that person. Some people think I’m escaping reality by not facing the issue head-on, but come on. What do you want me to do?
There are more things to occupy my mind at work than to worry about one or two people who don’t like me la. It’s not as if I have time to resolve differences when these are quite common in such a diverse office.
Call me heartless but you can’t please everybody. If I worry about every single individual who dislike me, I’d go crazy right now.
I expect to be professional in doing my job, fulfilling my responsibilities as efficiently and effectively as possible. Hopefully, they’ll just put away their differences and negative opinions of me and concentrate on the job at hand. Keep your personal feelings private, and let’s just work for the betterment of the company!
Let’s not waste time in petty issues like you not liking me. Work isn’t a popularity contest.
How about you? How do you handle people who don’t like you but you absolutely need to be with? How do you relate to people with a bias against you (and won’t change their minds about you anytime soon)?
Do share. Would be great to get more mature input. 🙂