This week I went to the driving range with some friends. As I’ve raved about it two Tuesday ago, you can really say that I’ve absolutely enjoyed the experience.
Regardless, I’ve also noticed one thing while at the driving range…
I’ve noticed that while I was concentrating hard on whacking the balls to fly high and straight to the point that I was sweating due to the heat, one of my acquaintances was not only late, but was also merely half-assing it, hitting the ball half-heartedly and sitting down most of the time.
It came to a point that even when we offered to give her more balls, she insisted that she’s already hit enough… this was even when she didn’t finish one basket!
Nothing against my friend… she seems to be a sweet girl.
But heck, if you’ve spent over NT$150 taking a taxi to the driving range in order to spend 2-3 hours there, then please do make the most out of your time, money and effort!
Don’t just sit there and play half-heartedly when you do play… play with passion and with all your heart!
Then I realized that there lay the difference.
Whereas I went to the driving range to perfect my swing and learn how to hit the ball far and straight…
She, with her color coordinated outfit and golf club was there to socialize and look good.
I came there to learn.
She came there to pose.
And how would you define a poser?
According to thefreedictionary.com, a poser is “one who affects a particular attribute, attitude, or identity to impress or influence others.“
Hence, she really wasn’t there to play golf, despite insisting she likes the game.
She didn’t really have the passion for it, and it showed.
You see, if a person has passion for something, it just shines.
It shows in every movement you make, every behavior you express and how your eyes sparkle when you talk about it.
I looked at her eyes.
She “likes” it, but heck, she doesn’t really have the heart for it.
The same goes to another acquaintance of mine.
Now listen up, this is classic.
There was one time she came to the climbing gym with us.
I was actually surprised.
I didn’t know climbing was her thing, and was excited to know that she would want to give it a shot.
Instead, what did she do?
She sat down on the bench…
Opened a woman’s magazine…
And proceeded to thumb through the pages while we went climbing!
My jaws just dropped.
*Raven lets out an expletive*
Yes, whereas at least, my golf acquaintance tried her hand on golf a bit, this second woman didn’t even do anything!
Imagine reading a woman’s magazine in the climbing gym!!!
Now, that’s just a funny sight.
Sorry to say, but that’s just a *$#(%$&*(#$* waste of time.
So there lies the difference between winners and posers…
One does it because he/she really likes it. And because of that, they excel. They pratice with discipline and figure out various techniques to improve themselves.
My friend Top-Climber is an example of it.
When he talks about climbing, his eyes twinkle and shine. He couldn’t stop talking about the bouldering gym when we discovered it together.
EM, the friend I met last night, is another example.
EM was so passionate about Toastmasters that every speech EM made impressed the heck out of me. On the first year, EM finished over 27 speeches, or over 2 speeches in a month. Now, that’s a lot of speeches!
But because these people have passion, they excelled in what they did.
Top-Climber attempts to challenge himself by trying various routes every single time we go climb…
EM thinks long and hard to come up with interesting topics that is relevant to each audience.
Yes ladies and gentlemen, these are the people who I deem as winners.
Looking at them, you can’t help but be enthusiastic. You can’t help but be transfixed and be impressed by them. Their passion also becomes your passion. Their interests makes you be more interested in what they’re doing.
This was when I realized the importance of heart when doing something.
Most people just do things half-ass in their life.
They go with the flow and do things either because everyone does it, or because they have to do things.
Very few people do things with any real passion.
But you know what, despite their rarity, when you meet these people with lots of heart, you can’t be helped but be drawn to them.
Because these people are not just going with the flow.
Instead, these are people who are actually ACTIVELY LIVING THEIR LIVES and making the most out of it. These people are living their life to the brim.
So the question is, what are you now?
Are you a winner… or a poser?
Think about it.
Guys are really funny.
When you pay them attention, they ignore you or take you for granted.
When you ignore them and go on your happy way, they call you and ask you out to “catch up.”
And no matter how hard you try, you can’t help but smile… widely. 😀
Yes, guys are really funny.
Have a great Wednesday!