Part II: Busy!

Last Sunday, my organization held a nice brunch at Carnegie’s (#100, Anhe Road Sec. 1). A lot of people only see Carnegie’s as a meat market, but I find it to be one of the better Western brunch places in town. Not only are the prices reasonable, but the servings are pretty big too.

Plus, with our brunch attendees growing in numbers, what other restaurant can accommodate 50 people at a single time?

The service was slower this time, but I’m happy with the turnout. I saw a lot of new faces, and we got to sell a lot of tickets to the Gala as well, which is definitely good news!

Afterwards, we headed over to Warner (HsinYi) to watch “The Exorcism of Emily Rose.” Since we’re both not into scary movies, Mark and I had a bet of who can last the longest. Hence, we cannot close our eyes or eyes all throughout the movie, and the first to do so loses.


It didn’t help that Wilson said that he couldn’t sleep till after 4AM for 3 days straight after he watched the movie. So you can imagine everyone’s hesitancy on watching “The Exorcism of Emily Rose.” It seemed everyone was scared, and only 6 of us went.

My verdict — the movie is terribly overrated in terms of scariness. It was more of a courtroom thriller/drama, and I only screamed once. And this was after I kept my eyes and ears open the whole time!

But it’s not a bad movie. It’s way better than “Chicken Little” that’s for sure. You could watch it if there’s no other good movies to watch.

Afterwards, we grabbed a quick kebab bite at the foodcourt before rushing to Y17 where we did some indoor wallclimbing.

I could almost kill Mark. 🙂

He invited almost 10 newbies to join us and so we were left belaying everyone left and right! Barbara was such a lifesaver when she finally showed up and helped out. My arms were starting to get sore too. I did manage to climb though — twice — so that was cool.

Surprisingly though, at the end of the day, I’ve had a lot of fun. It was great intiating all first-timers into wallclimbing and even Amy wanted to buy shoes after that. So it was very fulfilling overall.

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There’s another good blog that I’d like to share with all of you — http://kennysia.com.

When I have time, I browse through different blogs, looking for one that catches my eye. A lot of blogs are boring and don’t have much to say, but once in a while, I come across some like Kenny’s which is almost always funny. Admittedly, I log onto his website daily (he updates it regularly!) for my daily dose of laughs (and I have laughed aloud more times than I can count). 😀

Kenny Sia is a Malaysian blogger from Kuching. His rise to fame was when he posted a funny picture with him and another popular Singaporean blogger.

But he wasn’t just a one-hit wonder.

Every week, he manages an entry or two that are downright hilarious! Guaranteed to keep you laughing at your seats, I have no qualms sharing with you some of the best blogs I’ve come across so far. 🙂

Happy reading!

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I’ve read an article today about loving yourself first and foremost.

“Loving yourself is not the same as having a big ego (typically a sign of low self-love and esteem), nor is it the same as independence (typically a response to feeling too dependent on, or let down by others). True self-love stems from a clear recognition of ones self- worth and value as a contributing member in ones family, community, society, and the world as a whole. But at the core, loving oneself means that we have committed ourselves to the process of becoming self-aware (recognizing what it is that we need to feel whole, complete and fulfilled), and that we accept the personal responsibility of creating the life that we feel called to live. Love also means that we trust ourselves, ultimately turning to our own intuition and wisdom to find the answers and direction that only we can know for assisting us in creating a life of purpose, intention, and true fulfillment.”

Do you love yourself?

Really, ask yourself… do you really love yourself?

At 25-years old, I am slowly yet surely discovering to love myself more.

I guess, that’s what I meant about not being Miss Nice anymore.

Nice people always want to be loved, liked and accepted by everyone.

But that in itself is an impossibility.

The world can be cold, uncaring and cruel… it’s impossible that everyone will love you, no matter how nice you are.

Hence, I am gradually discovering that you have to love and put yourself first at times, and in such, gain other’s people’s respect.

Sure, they may not like you.

But they will RESPECT you.

And I’d rather have their respect than love.

I have more than enough family and friends who love me for who I am.

“We live in a culture that has taught us to value the opinions and experiences of others more than our own, and in the process we have failed to learn how to love ourselves, trust ourselves, and follow our own dreams (aka purpose). The advice and mentoring that others can provide is by no means invaluable, but it should only be used a tool to help guide us in the discovery of what works best for us.”

I am guilty of this.

I tend to ask everyone on their opinions on a given subject and give their opinions a lot of weight.

My logic is, if everyone’s telling you the same thing, they must be right. Of course, since your family and friends love you, do they not only want what is best for you and give you well-meaning advice?

However, I’ve recently discovered that I can be stubborn as a bull.

No matter how much well-meant advice I get, I sometimes listen… and sometimes still do the things I want.

Sure, they may very well be mistakes… but these are my choices.

In my entire life, I’ve never regretted a choice I’ve made myself. Only the choices that were forced on me by other people.

And I am glad that my friends still love and support me just the same, even if I don’t listen to them all the time.

“Learning to truly love and accept ourselves is one of the most difficult things to accomplish; it requires us to accept our faults as well as our strengths, and to recognize the value in both our failures and accomplishments. It also requires that we live moment by moment, free of should haves and could haves, and fully aware of each and every defining moment.

Last, but by no means least, it requires us to recognize that EVERY moment is a defining moment in our lives; every moment is a moment to shine, to learn, to grow, to be more intentional, and to be ourselves.”

Accepting who we are — sounds so easy, but difficult to do.

Last night, I’ve come to the realization of another weakness of mine — my Mandarin abilities. It’s a humbling moment, and though I know I can conquer this liability in time, I’ve come to accept that this is who I am. Of course, I will strive to improve myself further, and yet, will focus on building up my strengths instead.

“When we don’t love ourselves, the desire for acceptance and permission dictates our actions. When we do love ourselves, we create a life that brings us in alignment with what we believe our purpose is. When we don’t love ourselves, we place the burden of our happiness on others. When we do love ourselves, we find happiness in spite of others. When we don’t love ourselves, we are constantly seeking ways to get away.

When we do love ourselves, we never need a break from the life that we’re living. Loving ourselves provides us with the incentive we all need to do the things that nurture our wellbeing, warm our heart and sooth our soul.

Take a look at your life, right now, and ask yourself: Am I taking time for myself? Am I doing things that bring me a sense of inner peace and balance? Am I taking care of my self BEFORE I get sick, depressed, and resentful, or am I only attending to my needs in response to these conditions? Do I recognize that these conditions are the signs that a change in focus is required?”

I like to be liked and accepted by others, but I refuse to let that dictate who I am and what I do anymore.

I will still be nice, but only in my rules… when people are equally nice to me.

I know who I am now, and though every day, every week and every month, I discover more on who I am, I am secure in the knowledge that I am a good person who wants to make a difference in the world.

I love my life.

My friends think I’m crazy that I’m busy as a bee every single day… but I love it.

I love the challenges that surrounds me.

I love the people I closely surround myself with.

And though I’m still far off from truly loving myself, I am getting there.

How about you — do you truly love yourself? 🙂

C’est La Vie!

About Bonita

I'm a forgetful person. But I think a lot. Every day, a lot of thoughts enter my head. That's why this blog came to be: first, to keep my memories alive through the years, and two, to actually see how I and my thoughts have changed. Please note that I seldom draft or edit my posts. Sometimes, if I'm not careful, I offend some of you, my readers. And while I apologize for making you feel uncomfortable, I am not sorry for being honest or for making well-intentioned mistakes. I will however be the first to admit if I change my mind. Hence, do read and proceed with caution. My life is as colorful and as boring as you make it. I complain many days, but offer some encouragement in others. Life is fluid, it changes. So keep the positives and throw away the negatives, and I do hope that at the end of the day, you will enjoy reading the blog and leaving comments here and there if my posts touches you. Happy reading!
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One Response to Part II: Busy!

  1. j_e_s says:

    just droppin’ by!

    hmm, i’ve been constantly asking myself that question for a long time too.

    i once read somewhere that you can’t expect someone to really love you if you can’t truly love yourself and although i’ve had really rough/ bad days, i think i WILL get there..sooner or later..

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