A lot of women are very funny.
No wonder guys find it difficult to understand us.
For them, they usually say what they mean. Plus, their needs are pretty simple — food, sex and sleep. Not usually in that order, of course.
But women, we want them to care for us, cuddle us, pamper us, shower us with attention, so on and so forth…
And here’s the catch, we don’t really want to ask them to give it to us.
At least for me, the logic usually is, if you care about me so much, YOU’LL KNOW WHAT I WANT WITHOUT ME TELLING THIS TO YOU.
We want them to be seasoned psychics, who understand every one of our want, desires and needs, without us telling them.
And why not?
I don’t know about you girls, but I feel uncomfortable demanding things from my boyfriend.
For example, now that he’s in a month-long vacation, I would really appreciate it if he contacted me daily.
Text, phone, email or MSN… take his pick! But yes, I do want regular contact.
But I don’t want to voice it out. I don’t feel comfortable asking him to do this (not that he won’t… I’ve asked him recently, and he’s perfectly fine with it).
There’s an element of pride in the picture. And I don’t want to be depicted as that demanding, controlling girlfriend who nags her boyfriend constantly.
No wonder a lot of men can’t figure us out.
Betcha they’re scratching their heads right now. For most of them, if they want something, they ask. We women usually just keep our mouths shut until we can’t hold it back anymore.
For example, we want them to call us regularly… we want them to want to see us… we want them to cuddle with us and pamper us.
But we don’t want to tell them. ‘Cause for me in particular, I have to set aside my pride and ask. I think it’s more of the fear of being rejected.
For example, what if it’s too much a bother, and he says no?
But as I’ve learned, if you don’t ask, you don’t get.
Simmer all you want, but if your guy has no idea what YOU want, how can he give it to you?
Besides, as they say, communication is key in the relationship.
Well, so far, every time I ask, I get it. But I try to make sure that all my requests are reasonable.
I’m learning. More often than not, I still expect my sensitive boyfriend to immediately understand my wants. But that’s not always the case.
Even how considerate he is, he sometimes still needed to be informed on what I want.
But I’m learning. 🙂
Here’s an example on how complicated women may be:
My boyfriend recently asked me what I want for him to buy for me from the States. Since he’s been gone for a month, it seems expected that he buy me something.
“So, what do you want for me to bring you?” he asked.
My thoughts, No freaking clue. Never really thought about what I want him to bring me… for one, Taipei almost has everything I want. And secondly, I just want him home.
“It’s up to you,” I then sweetly said.
“Well, let me bring you a loaf of bread then,” he laughs.
“Umm… I think you can be a lot sweeter than that,” I replied.
See, it’s pretty funny. I’m really not asking for anything, but likewise, I’m not expecting that he comes home empty-handed. Unconsciously, I want him to pretty much know what I want or don’t want, and bring that to me.
Grrr…. He’d better not bring me a loaf of bread.