“Are we boyfriend and girlfriend?”
“Are we dating exclusively?”
“What’s the current status of our relationship?”
These are just some of the most crucial questions being asked in a relationship. The question most women want to ask…
And most men dread to hear.
For women, they need to know where the relationship is going, while most men would just want to enjoy the ride.
And if the woman doesn’t demand any commitment, the guy’s just as happy to let the relationship run its course.
Friends with benefits (FWBs) also crudely known as f*ck buddies (FUBUs) are every guy’s dream.
“You know what?” my guy-friend said, “Most guys only agree to labels because that’s what the women want… and demand.”
“Actually, we are quite content without the label,” he added. “If the relationship is going well, they’ll stay. If the relationship’s going down, they’ll bail. No ‘label’ necessary.“
“Usually, the women prefer labels,” he concluded. “You women want to know particularly if you’re boyfriend/girlfriend, hanging out or just dating… For me, if you consistently are with that woman on a regular basis, you’re basically boyfriend/girlfriend. You don’t need to say it out loud anymore.”
Hmmm… is this true, guys?
Would u want the relationship to be clear, or vague?
Do you want to know the status of your relationship with your significant other?
Personally, I prefer knowing what the status is on the relationship.
My guy friend asked me if it is because I wanted to restrict the other person from dating other people, once we’re officially boyfriend/girlfriend.
I admitted that though that was a factor, the reason was that it makes life a lot easier for me.
For me, it’s uncomfortable when I introduce someone as a “friend,” when we’re in fact we’re more than friends. It’s also simpler when handling guys who ask me out.
If I’m in a committed relationship, I simply turn them away. But if the relationship is vague, I usually fumble on the appropriate response.
It’s just my personality not to date two guys at the same time.
I’m just stupid in that sense.
So sue me.
What’s more, it also legalizes your actions in a relationship.
Coming from a more conservative background, I still feel uncomfortable when I’m kissing someone who’s not my boyfriend.
It just doesn’t seem… or feel… right.
I can do it once or twice, but long-term wise, it drives me nuts!
As my pseudo-love psychiatrist (Mike) would say, “Don’t make me go through that again!!!” I drive him completely nuts when I’m in a non-legal relationship.
For guys, the label is nothing. But for me, the label is still important.
I need to know where the relationship is. I don’t have the patience to wait and make out with you — all the while not knowing where everything is going. I need a minimum amount of control in such that I know that as much as I adore and like to be with you, you feel the same way.
And though it’s not a guarantee, the label does that.
You may not care about the label. But if you care about me enough, you can take my needs into consideration and for my sake… be willing to make some sort of commitment!
And at the least, I know that since you’re willing to enter some sort of commitment, you do feel a deeper sense of emotion for me.
As my guy friend said when I asked him what’s the difference between a girl you’re merely f*cking and a girl you’re in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with…
“Guys can have sex with a woman without feeling anything for her,” he said. “But you have to at least have a minimum amount of feeling and affection toward a girlfriend.”
And that’s what I want.
Labels do mean something.
So how about you guys?
Do you think labels are important? Or can you just make do without it? Would love to hear what you think!