What makes a player, a player?

I’ve earlier written about my conversation with Michael about jerks. Now, our topic moved on to “players” which is a whole different category.

What makes a player, a player?

For me, a player is someone who makes the girl like him, without the intention of even taking her seriously. Simultaneously dating several women is also a symptom of being a player. If you think he’s a player, feel he’s a player, chances are, he’s a player.

Wrong,” declared Michael.

I raised an eyebrow. What’s the matter with that?

He patiently explains, if you feel that he’s a player, then he’s a bad player. A good player will never let you on that he’s a player. Why? Because he’s played women so many times that he already knows what are the lines to use, the moves to make, and the clothes to wear to “get” the woman.

A certified player would be so used to playing women that he gets so good at it. They’re so experienced that women won’t even know what hit them.

It’s when the woman can feel that the guy’s a player, is when that guy’s not really a player — because he doesn’t know what to do. He screws up his lines, laughs too hard, or moves too slowly or quickly. He can play, but he can’t play well. That’s why you caught on his act.

Hmmm… that’s something to think about. It does make sense.

I would like to think you don’t feel that he’s a player because everything’s so natural, that you have a connection. My guy friend gives me another thought to consider.

How about you guys? What makes a guy, a player?

About Bonita

I'm a forgetful person. But I think a lot. Every day, a lot of thoughts enter my head. That's why this blog came to be: first, to keep my memories alive through the years, and two, to actually see how I and my thoughts have changed. Please note that I seldom draft or edit my posts. Sometimes, if I'm not careful, I offend some of you, my readers. And while I apologize for making you feel uncomfortable, I am not sorry for being honest or for making well-intentioned mistakes. I will however be the first to admit if I change my mind. Hence, do read and proceed with caution. My life is as colorful and as boring as you make it. I complain many days, but offer some encouragement in others. Life is fluid, it changes. So keep the positives and throw away the negatives, and I do hope that at the end of the day, you will enjoy reading the blog and leaving comments here and there if my posts touches you. Happy reading!
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One Response to What makes a player, a player?

  1. vivooviv says:

    interesting blog….
    I would disagree with your friend and then again not disagree…
    We are all players… we all play games… we may not realize it but we do…
    At the same time your friend is right… Some people ( notice I didn’t say guys ) are just not that good at hiding it… I know this girl that is twenty-one and she uses some pretty lame tactics… at least to me… stuff I knida see right through…
    My point is this look at the degree of the game being played and not the player ( again we are all players ).

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